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It does harm children because [...] people like yourself that defend it use it to normalize it for their victims/convince kids that what they are doing is okay

I'm trying to understand.

Just to be clear, defending the right of somebody to do something doesn't mean you like it. There is a big gap between "this is not for me" and "this should be illegal". I don't think anybody in this thread is normalizing it, I think we are distinguishing between what we dislike and what should be illegal. For me personally, actual physical harm is the deciding factor.

When somebody argues that X leads some people to perform an act of violence Y, the issue for me is still with Y, not with X. For example, I've heard people argue that we should ban burning the rainbow flag because they believe it leads to violent crimes against LGBT people. I am queer and defend the right of people to burn the flag, as much as I dislike it happening. Why? Because the flag itself is an inanimate object, and the threshold is crossed only when an actual person is the victim of violence.

In other words, I can't get behind policing people's minds. Want to murder somebody? I don't approve of it, but it's not even in the same ballpark as actually murdering somebody.

I will say that if I found out that one of my kids' teachers was involved in any of that stuff, I would promptly find a new school because it's not worth the risk. So, it's not like it would be free of consequences either. Same if the teacher was burning the rainbow flag.