No worries. If it's specific to you, it probably wouldn't work for me, anyway. I was just hoping there was something general you could point me towards.

[–] candyman337@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 year ago

I was gonna say I'll get back to you when I check my notes but then I startex remembering tips so here you go:

One easy tip, utilize your phone calendar, experiment with when to get the reminders. That was one of my first steps. I use it for appointments and things, and some regular daily tasks, I don't always follow it.

That's what I worked on next with was executive dysfunction, not having the motivation to do the things I wanted to do. One thing I decided would work for me is setting a goal for a week, or a month, etc. Because one thing he mentioned was having a purpose in your head or having an identity picked out in your head that defines you most accurately. Like teacher, or father, or learner, or bulder etc. My goal right now is to figure out what that means for me, and try to understand who I want to be, and as I collect those pieces I write them down and try to work towards them. I find myself naturally making lists of things to do more and actually checking them because I know that list will help me get done what I want to do, it gets to where I want to be in life. Whether that be for work or personal life.

I think for me those were big ones, those definitely still take some work to build to, and sometimes the answer is also medication, and sometimes it's completely different but that stuff helped me. I feel like it's common for ADHD to be very goal motivated. Personally rewards never work for me, it's the satisfaction of competing something that I was working towards that pushes me.

But you have to be willing to identify to yourself that you did a good job, I struggled with bad self speak. And it wasn't really obvious until I started to think about it. Like instead of saying, "I'm pretty good at x, but not the best". I'd say, "I'm not great at x, but I'm not terrible" like one shows I'm decent but I have room to grow, and the other shows I'm not good and but I'm not the worst. Too negative. So I had to work on my recognition of my personal progress. If you don't actually recognize what you've done and the progress you've made, you'll feel like you've gotten nowhere

Those are a few, you can definitely find more info on some of this online, and I'll make another comment if I remember more or see some in my notes.