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- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
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Ah, maybe I need to loose weight to see them than, I currently weight 200 lbs
No you don't. Friend, there are plus-sized cis women. Weight is not gender. Height is not gender.
I'm struggling, too, to find my style. My mom flat out said she won't help me clothes shop. She keeps saying things about how I'm an adult and I should put my big girl panties on and I don't need the support of my mother.
Sorry, inserted my own drama. But my point is, try. I got frustrated a few weeks ago cuz I went to goodwill and they have taken out their dressing rooms. There are other thrift stores tho. And if you are afraid of being recognized in your home town cuz you aren't out publicly yet, go to a thrift store out of your town. Might be good anyways. It could help you be less self-conscious knowing you won't have a possibility of seeing these people ever again.
I do have a question regarding this, if I fail to loose weight would HRT not be able to give me hips due to male fat distribution? also sorry I don't mean to sound super depressive, I know it angers you.
Sky, it doesn't anger me. I have genuine concern for you. I, myself have major depressive disorder, as do all three of my kids. My oldest is battling an addiction with cutting. Your depression touches me deeply, and I want to help you and I don't know how.
Honestly, there are many more people much more knowledgeable than me, in this community. But, with what knowledge I do have, it should redistribute some fatty tissue, I think, regardless of weather or not you lose weight. It may take longer than you expect, or the changes may have been happening and you haven't noticed.
I would almost recommend maybe recording your own timeline, but with your body image issues it may be difficult for you.
I deeply apologize for coming off as angry.
Thank you for your concern, I know ive struggled a ton, I have been working behind the scenes trying to surond myself with real life friends who support me. It is taking time but hopefully all works out well. I do struggle and I get that, its just hard sometimes expressly when I'm having a worse day.