Oh bite me. I'm not "choosing tribalism". Direct your ire to the people slinging abuse at minorities, not at minorities who are tired of endlessly debating their own existence.

It can’t be easy to talk to people who on the surface appear to disagree with your very existence.

Not just on the surface. Don't downplay.

But the people actually talking it through are not the bad guys, they’re the ones getting shit done, changing minds instead of escalating and further entrenching people in their existing views.

Historically speaking, you are dead wrong. Societies have fallen to fascism precisely because of moderates and "centrists" making room for fascism to flourish, and impeding efforts to shut it down before it entrenches itself, because they were convinced that "civil conversation" was the only way forward.

You might feel superior to those of us actually doing the work, but you are standing in the way of actually getting things done. And you will be treated accordingly.