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[DISCUSSION] Weekly Discussion Wednesday - "Boys and men have been told from birth on to believe that at some point they must be violent, to prove that they are men" (self.mensliberation)
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This week’s prompt is:

“This is a patriarchal truism that most people in our society want to deny. Whenever women thinkers, especially advocates of feminism, speak about the widespread problem of male violence, folks are eager to stand up and make the point that most men are not violent. They refuse to acknowledge that masses of boys and men have been programmed from birth on to believe that at some point they must be violent, whether psychologically or physically, to prove that they are men.”

― bell hooks, The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love

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[–] Phoenixbouncing@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (7 children)

This is a textbook example of "Men as a threat" and stereotyping, and is why a lot of boys and men feel lost. You can't find your place in society if society rejects you as a threat.

People are, once again, portraying boys and men as a broken by design and pile on the blame rather than helping them grow.

Boys and men aren't monsters programmed to strike, and they will naturally resent being called such.

You will also immediately lose them as a target audience, and shouldn't be surprised that you've pushed them into the arms of toxic influencers.

It would be unthinkable to make such a sweeping statement about any other group today.

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