Yeah, I hear you. I've tried a few different Lemmy instances and they've all varied in terms of bugs, posts getting stuck on the main page for days, not being able to load a post I made myself even though I keep getting comments on it. I get it, this is all new. But switching over to kbin made a huge difference. kbin.social is still getting killed from the amount of new users, but imo it looks and works way better than Lemmy while still being able to communicate with people on Lemmy. I'm not sure which system is newer, Lemmy or kbin, but kbin feels way more polished and responsive.