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“My Brother Is So Far Gone”: How Male Influencers Turned The Men In These People’s Lives Toxic
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I think the identity of men is unstable nowdays.
A lot of people don't know what is to be a man today, so they go back to the old ways when it's was simple for then and bad for woman.
The nuances and uncertainty of modern life is too much for some people usually need success model's to follow to feel safe.
Why are men always obsessing about what it means to be a man? I think that was one of the most commonly asked questions on reddit. Never in my life have I asked what it means to be a woman, I find the question nonsensical. I'm a person and I can do whatever I like and being a woman isn't the defining feature of my identity.
Since the very beginning, men are told to not to cry or man up and don't talk about feelings, because that is gay, later he notices that he can't express love the same way a woman do, then he learn's people respect him more if he is logical and uncaring.
These are all stereotypes men deal with so they think being a man is being like that. To change they need help from society. So they ask how to be a man is like: how a respectful and flourished man act this day and age?
My personal opinion is to change society, the better behavior need to be motivated. If being a confident asshole is paying off men will be like that.