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Don’t You Know Who I Am?
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No. I've come to terms with who I am and even like some aspects of it that I would miss so I wouldn't give it up if I had the choice, but it's a disability for me, has been a very hard struggle, and I don't even have it as severe as some. I wouldn't wish this on more people. (Unless it was 100% of people because most of the struggles I have with the tism come from trying to live in a world designed by NTs that probably wouldn't exist in a world where everyone had tism)
Oh, I getchu. I would say a huge component of the disability, probably almost all of it, is because of the ways society is structured to punish anyone who isn't a NT majority-demographic person. (Which means it literally would be better if it was 100%).
Autism is a wide spectrum involving people with different life experiences. It's ok for you to say that you personally don't like being autistic, but do not use that to throw dirt on the people who are doing fine despite social discrimination.
...And this adds even more to my point. This sounds to me like the message of someone who isn't suffering so much due to their innate characteristics as they have due to being discriminated. If you're at that point, the logical position isn't "I wish to be normal", but "I wish society wasn't so full of assholes and was more tolerant".
Please read the rules of this community before participating again. Aggressiveness is not welcome here.
Have you actually warned and removed the comment that said "no one likes being autistic" as well?
If you see a comment that breaks the rules, please report it and include which rule you believe it violated in the “reason” box. Don’t argue/reply to comments that break the rules, just ignore them or block the user after you’ve reported it.
I cannot report the comment of an user I have blocked, but you have had the chance to see it if you even put the minimum effort to check the context of my comment that you removed.
The comment of that user is in line with a social trend that aims to silence the voices of autism self advocates, to impose the discourse that autism is an ill that must be destroyed. If you had checked the other comments of that user, you would seen them speaking in behalf of parents of autistic people, rather than in behalf of autistic people themselves. Maintain the context and change the term: [No one likes being gay], [No one likes being black]. It is not difficult to see that it is hate speech. The fact that you warned someone getting angry at an user telling them that their identity ought not to exist, and actively or inadvertently promoting hate speech, but did nothing with the initial offending comments, makes me distrust the moderation of this community. Do you understand the issue?
Once again, you’re being rude and aggressive. You are now banned from this community.
But to address the accusations you’ve made against the moderation of this community; I replied to your comment immediately despite it being a really inconvenient time. I didn’t ignore you or just ban you, I took the time to explain the reporting process because you’re clearly upset/frustrated. Before I did that I did attempt to check the context. This is all I can see on mobile (remember it’s an inconvenient time):
Nothing in that comment breaks the rules. That is far more than the minimum effort in my opinion.
In the sidebar and the stickied post at the top of this community it’s explained that moderators are not the thought/morality police. My job is only to enforce the rules, not judge who is right in a discussion. I’m was not part of your discussion and I’m not interested in getting my involved outside of my obligations as a moderator. Your comments broke the rules, the other users didn’t, so you got a warning.
You’ve continued to break the rules so now you are banned from this community. I will only ban you for 3 months because this is clearly an emotive topic for you - we can all lose our head over issues that effect us personally. I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt that this is the case. Any further rule violations will result in an immediate and permanent ban.
I’ve been patient, prompt and fair, and I’ve put more time and effort into responding to you than I think would be expected. I assume you can complain about my moderation to the instance admins if you remain concerned.