This is an admin post, intended for blahaj lemmy users. Top level posts from members of other instances will be removed.
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Edit - Hexbear announced plans to deferedate from us.
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~~After recent events, it feels to me that sentiment has shifted and more people are asking for defederation of hexbear than previously~~
~~I've been doing my best to try and mend bridges and keep us connected, as it's my hope that we can maintain trans solidarity and work with them, despite the friction, however, ultimately, I feel that this is an issue for the blahaj lemmy community to decide, not the admins alone~~
~~So here's what we're going to do~~
~~We're going to leave things as they are for a week. That will give time for things to calm down whilst we see if we can work together. After a week, I'll put up a vote and get a feel for where the community is at in regards to our continued federation with hexbear. That poll will run for a week. If there is a strong will to defederate (a clear majority), then that's what we will do~~
Not sure if you read the entirety of what I wrote or just reacted, but there’s no need for name calling.
If you have something better I could compare the vibe on hexbear, I’d be open to it, but that was the only place I’ve seen that engages in intentionally inflammatory meme-based vibes politics in the same way hexbear does. That kind of discourse is not the kind of discourse I want around blahaj. And they did a LOT of it in the original post for this.
And yes, queer solidarity is important, but only to people who are willing to return the respect needed for solidarity.
If a trans person punches me in the face every time I see them, me saying “well I need to keep them around because of queer solidarity” makes me an idiot. Of course I wouldn’t want to have them around, they keep punching me in the face!