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What are some tips for handling confrontation at work for someone who’s naturally averse to confrontation? (beehaw.org)

submitted 1 year ago by trufax@beehaw.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] housepanther@lemmy.goblackcat.com 9 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I don't like confrontation either but it is important to set boundaries. I've done this. It's okay for someone not to like me but I will not tolerate disrespect. I had somebody at work call me stupid because I could not solve their problem right then and there. When I get very angry, I speak quietly and enunciate my words. I said to this person, "I'm going to leave now. You let me know when you're ready to work with me." To which she responded that she would call me and I retorted, "No, you will not call me. You will send me a Teams message or an email." And I walked away. Naturally I got accused of all kinds of things but I documented what happened and signed and dated it. HR found in my favor.

[–] trufax@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

This hits close to home. When I was candid about the fact that it took some courage to speak up about something that needed pushing back on, I got called a “scaredy cat” 🙄

[–] housepanther@lemmy.goblackcat.com 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Name calling is the language of the weak. I it does take courage and I'm glad you summoned the courage to do so.

[–] trufax@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago

Thank you! That genuinely makes me feel a little better