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[–] spaduf 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (8 children)

Is your point just that most of those bad actors are women? I think we are in agreement on this fact. That's what makes the polling data interesting, that the popular demographics do not necessarily match the demographics of the talking heads.

[–] CrypticCoffee@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (7 children)

I'm not going to simplify it's just women. There are a number of high profile anti-trans women campaigners that are absolutely a problem. With that, I'm sure there are many male public figures who are just as toxic.

I think it's very easy to assume a lot of this comes from bad intentions, and some of it will. I think some of this may be somewhat innocent, but ultimately unhelpful. For example, cis males may be protective of their partners and daughters, and may be concerned because the risks have often been misrepresented, for example in the case of bathroom sharing. Obviously this is paternalistic, and many would construe this as patronising. Many women are confident and don't see that issue, and don't feel they need that protection. My feeling is part of this may come from a good place, intentions wise, but be completely misguided, and open to negative influence from people who are peddling negative and toxic views. I think this problem is quite complex, and as a result any one single approach will not work to solve the problem.

Edit: I noticed my other post got deleted. It seems ok to insinuate something about my motives, but when I reasonably respond and ask them same question, it's censored and mod powers are used without hesitation. I don't think rich debate can be had here and it's not a place I want to be part of.

[–] spaduf 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Your other post was removed because it was composed largely of ad hominem attacks against myself and logical fallacies used to claim this article excused transphobia by women.

If it’s the headline that bothers you I have to ask why? It does not make any generalized claims about men that are not backed up by self-reported polling.

Is legitimately a question looking for an answer. I did not mean to imply anything about your intentions.

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