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Image text: @agnieszkasshoes: "Part of what makes small talk so utterly debilitating for many of us who are neurodivergent is that having to smile and lie in answer to questions like, "how are you?" is exhausting to do even once, and society makes us do it countless times a day."

@LuckyHarmsGG: "It's not just the lie, it's the energy it takes to suppress the impulse to answer honestly, analyze whether the other person wants the truth, realize they almost certainly don't, and then have to make the DECISION to lie, every single time. Over and over. Decision fatigue is real"

@agnieszkasshoes: "Yes! The constant calculations are utterly exhausting - and all under the pressure of knowing that if you get it "wrong" you will be judged for it!"

My addition: For me, in addition to this, more specifically it's the energy to pull up that info and analyze how I am. Like I don't know the answer to that question and that's why it's so annoying. Now I need to analyze my day, decide what parts mean what to me and weigh the average basically, and then decide if that's appropriate to share/if the person really wants to hear the truth of that, then pull up my files of pre-prepared phrases for the question that fits most closely with the truth since not answering truthfully is close to impossible for me.

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[–] MadgePickles@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

We all know what to say. Since you didn't understand anything I just said I'm tapping out. Please don't comment in here again until you've taken more time to read and listen and observe.

[–] Zeth0s@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Edit. I didn't notice the community. This appeared on my "all" feed and I was just commenting as if it was any other thread.

I am sorry if someone may have felt offended.

I just wanted to casually chat, not judge, maybe help someone (who knows). I won't be commenting further

[–] MadgePickles@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 year ago

I apologize for my previous comment. It felt like you might be trolling and refusing to listen to explanations given to you by saying the same thing

[–] redchlorophyll@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

You don't need to apologize for an accident, man! Do you and comment as much as you want, it's a free website. Don't let this pickle person tell you what you can or can't do