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Because it is a hostile approach what are you on about. People aren't clairvoyants to be able to see the future and read minds of mods who will take a look at the reports. They won't know that their reports are causing a single mod to boil over in anger, especially when apparently there were two reports in two weeks?
So now you have a situation where one person sees something and reports it, and the other has been pissed off for two weeks, but not communicating their annoyance.
So the mod overreacts and reaches out to say "don't report!!!!" To which the other person says "I think this is a valid report". Which then evolves to "ok I won't report anymore".
First, why the fuck would you confront someone over two reports in two weeks? Second, why not end the conversation like an adult - saying "reporting this as misinfo is against our rules" and end it there? Third, why leave the site and their modding duties alltogether over a single interaction - with someone who hasn't been confronted before about this issue and was unaware of it? Fourth why call "ok I'll not be reporting" childish / immature as if reporting is some divine duty of the user?
The way it should've been handled is a) don't confront people over nothing. Check HALT - hungry angry lonely tired and don't start anything when that's the case. B) if they need to confront, talk to your fellow mods first to present a unified front. C) be succint and state what you find to be a problem. Don't be an ahole about it. D) when the other person reacts with "I don't want to report anymore" reply with "I am sorry to hear that and I'd rather you wouldn't stop, but ultimately that's your choice to make". Don't antagonize further for no reason.