I happen to see such behaviour (ghosting after a promising start, already planning for a first in person meeting) very often, too, (although it's with guys obviously), and I asked those who were available for such questions afterwards why they didn't follow through.

Answer nearly always was: They dream of living out this part of their sexuality (they very often crave it because it really is what they are) but can't risk to get "caught" by their partners, families and other social circle. Very often they use conversations with other guys to get them off (i.e. masturbation, it often is as simple as that) - and after getting a high out of being in touch with a real guy interested in them and being relieved of the most urgent pressure they can get back to their closeted life until the next time the craving gets too strong. Some of these conversations had a dark overtone as these guys really felt like living a torn, "wrong" life.

Does that match any of your experiences?

[–] kcameleon@lemmy.world 5 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago) (1 children)

I am sorry maybe it matches and maybe it doesn't let me know what you think about what I'll tell you. We're both a minority in the fact we are lesbians but also asexual ! I think we were happy to discover we expected the same thing in a relationship and our talk was interesting, we talked a lot about common interests and talked for hours, even planning to get coffee at her place someday. Do you think in this scenario living the asexual part of her life made her scared?

[–] ladicius@lemmy.world 4 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago) (1 children)

Have you tried asking her? Is she still up for some communication?

There may be a myriad of reasons why such connections get lost (there may even be very simple technical problems, losing the login or the only device used for that app, who knows). I stated one possible reason that will not apply to a lot of other people. Maybe it wasn't the asexuality and more of another aspect? In the end only she knows.

[–] kcameleon@lemmy.world 5 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

She actually told me she didn't saw my texts this morning! I am still in ladies (and bi dudes!)

[–] ladicius@lemmy.world 5 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

I wish you all the best! Have fun on your date :)

[–] kcameleon@lemmy.world 5 points 7 hours ago

Thank you you're so kind!