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[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 7 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

It's also confusing being asked somewhere and never being told it's being treated as a date.

[–] erev@lemmy.world 2 points 18 hours ago

thats valid! both people here were kinda shitty to each other

[–] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 0 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Why not ask? If a guy asks a girl (or vice versa) to go somewhere and it's not abundantly clear it's not a date (e.g. you've done similar things together before, they're openly gay, or they explicitly said it's not a date), then it should be assumed to be a date unless clarified otherwise. So if they don't specify and you're unsure, then ask.

That said, her leaving is also odd. A misunderstanding shouldn't be a big deal. Show up the next day and laugh about it, and you're golden. I wouldn't be mad if that happened to me, nor should either anon or the girl. It's just a misunderstanding, it's really no big deal.

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 4 points 14 hours ago

Why do you see a date as the default for men and women hanging out together?