Except for the fact that the next one along is gonna get bad sex too. A lover is like a public park: when you're done using it, the polite thing is to leave it as good or better than when you arrived.

Don't push them to do something they don't want to do.

Unlike the OP, I'm advocating for constructive criticism and pointers. That's not pushing. That's nudging at most.

There's no reason to be hostile about it.

If you think giving helpful advice on how you can better please someone in bed, in stead of pretending that they're already a champion, is hostile behavior, that's a YOU problem..

[–] angrystego@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Laughing at someone is hostile. Parting ways amicably is much better. I also think that men should not be pressed to do things they don't want to do in bed. Also, not every woman enjoys the same methods, so teaching a man something might not work for his next partner. People have different tastes in sexual stuff. It's necessary to communicate and be prepared that there can be different preferences. It's ok if someone doesn't want to do some stuff in bed.

[–] Viking_Hippie@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Laughing at someone is hostile

As I made clear in another comment, that part was a joke. As in I didn't mean it. I don't endorse body shaming, even if someone's a selfish lover lol

Parting ways amicably is much better.

Yeah, obviously.

I also think that men should not be pressed to do things they don't want to do in bed

Nobody's suggesting that. Can we do this without the strawmen, please?

Also, not every woman enjoys the same methods, so teaching a man something might not work for his next partner.

Sure, but some things work for more than one person. Such as being open to suggestions of how to improve. Which needs to be a two-way street and voluntary, of course.

People have different tastes in sexual stuff.

You don't say?

It's necessary to communicate and be prepared that there can be different preferences

Of course. That's what I'm advocating for.

It's ok if someone doesn't want to do some stuff in bed.

Again, I never said to force anyone to do anything. I meant something along the lines of "X isn't really working for me, could you try Y?" or "I really like X, is that something you're into?", NOT "do X or get out!"

[–] angrystego@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

So are we actually on the same page? It seems we agree with each other, which is nice.

[–] Viking_Hippie@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

...maybe? 🤷

[–] Malfeasant@lemm.ee 2 points 1 day ago

Get a room!