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General trans community.
Rules:
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Follow all blahaj.zone rules
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All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.
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Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.
Resources:
Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.
Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en
StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/
Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/
[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map
[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination
[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/
[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/
[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/
[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org
*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on
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I usually assume people are being polite. I know my voice is still pretty "unique" as one acquaintance put it, so I figure that'll always out me no matter how far along my body gets with HRT.
But still. Passing isn't as important to me as being treated the way I want to. More and more often now, strangers have been using my preferred pronouns without me having to tell them first. And whatever the reason for that is, it makes me sooo happy~
yeah, I assume most people are just being polite as well. My voice isn't cis-passing IMO (but my self-perception can be off), but it no longer sounds like a man's voice either, and in public I pay much more attention to my voice and try to pass with it more (major work in progress, honestly one of the hardest parts of transitioning).
Passing is important to me for safety reasons because of where I live, but admittedly it hasn't been my explicit goal as much as something that I desire. No one has sir'd me or used he/him pronouns in a long time, but sometimes I get a "they" that could indicate they don't know my gender and want to be careful, though that is sometimes just my sensitivity (sometimes they use "she" later for example and the "they" then seems less like I thought).
But yay to strangers using your preferred pronouns without prompting, that's awesome!
Ah yes, the they/them when I go as she/her... Although it sort of irks me right when I hear it, l still see it as a sign of progress -- I've made it to the gray area! That's better than where I started!
yes, you get it 😅 "androgynous" is better than "man", and "I don't know your gender and I want to be polite" is better than "sir" or he/him. Still, makes me feel like my gender is broken or something.
I wouldn't blame gender per se. More that it blows their minds, and that's what's broken.
You know, positive self-talk. You're mind-blowing.
To be fair, I tend to they/them even cis people unless I know them and know what they prefer. Better to assume neutral rather than one way or the other.