Really applies to most things. I'm not a dude, trans woman, but I've gotten sexually harassed a lot both pre and post transition and the response I got pre and post transition is night and day. Pretransition people treated me like I was crazy for feeling unsafe and like I was supposed to enjoy it.
Honestly, men should be allowed to feel unsafe around women, or really allowed to feel unsafe in general, and be taken seriously for it.

[–] Krauerking@lemy.lol 22 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I'm a guy.

I've been sexually assaulted multiple times in my life by both genders. The last time was at the hands of a boyfriend who made me no longer want to be Bi. I haven't been with another guy since and only date female now.

Honestly the response has never been in my favor. At the hands women it was ignored or blamed on me and by men I was told that I should have enjoyed it more. I've been belittled for not being gay enough to take being assaulted in public. And told I was being a problem for having it done to me in a work setting with apologies made for the perpetrator and then myself sent away.

I never get to feel unsafe and I never have gotten to feel seen for it. Not by other men. Not by the LGBTQ community, not by women, not even by doctors. It's devastating and yet there apparently is no right time to ever bring it forward. It's horrible that it feels we have specific socially acceptable ways to be traumatized and most of them are against men. And yet the loudest resistance feels like from the people being hypocrites cause it makes for an easier narrative.

I don't like people anymore.

[–] Krauerking@lemy.lol 10 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I'm sorry. I didn't mean to type all that. I'm sorry.

[–] Doburoku@lemmy.world 16 points 1 week ago (1 children)

No need to apologize. Glad you shared. Never apologize for getting something off your chest.

I'm sorry no one treated your abuse seriously.

[–] Krauerking@lemy.lol 5 points 1 week ago

Thank you.

I'm sorry I kinda had a panic attack after I sent that.

Thank you again.

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