I think the part people leave out is that not everyone has the same goal. Most describe it as being "happy", but never consider whether thats even possible to be happy nearly all the time.

The flaw there as I see it is that humans seem to always return to some sort of baseline emotional state, but this state is not happiness. Happiness is the spikes up while sadness are the spikes down, but given enough time it always comes back to baseline.

Thats why you can find really extreme examples of happiness. Some of the time I spent in jail were truly happy times, which really confused me at the time. On the other side you might see people become depressed during or after achieving their goals.

In my opinion, having the wrong expectations for how you should feel and for how long, can turn small curable problems into consuming destructive problems.

It should be: time plus perspective heals all wounds.

[–] Nyxon@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Not sure I am following you on this one, I believe the only time happiness has been mentioned in this thread of comments is when I said I am the happiest I have ever been. I think I am uniquely qualified to determine where my new baseline lays on a happiness scale.

What you said does not dismiss the existence of a generally agreed upon meaning of happiness. Yes, it spikes to high levels for short periods of time and it sinks into sadness too. But that does not mean the baseline cannot shift up or down on that scale and hold at a new level.

Define your scale with words that make sense to you but I think you would be hard pressed to convince anyone that seeking professional help for a mental disability, or even a suspected mental disability, would not lead to better outcomes or a high quality of life for those seeking help than to not seek help at all.

[–] Rekorse@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It was an additional point, noone brought it up before I mentioned it.

I am saying a lot of focus goes on putting in work and not as much into what's being worked towards.

People should seek treatment if they think it will helpthemz, I wasnt saying otherwise. Therapy can be hit or miss though so saying that like its just a simple thing is a problem in its own.

There are many moving parts to this type of thing, and searching for a single monolithic solution is not helping. The more tools people have the better, and one of them is moderating expectation of quality of life to a reasonable level.

[–] Nyxon@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Who is searching for a single monolithic solution? Who suggested there was one?

Not sure where you are going with this or where you are pulling that from.

Plenty of mentions of what one could or would be working towards in the above conversation so I think that is a dead end topic.

“Saying a lot of focus goes to putting in work” and then “saying that therapy is just like a simple thing” are contradictory, so which one is it? I don’t think anyone has mentioned, or even inferred, that therapy is a simple thing. Not sure where you got that from.

I see you making a lot of assumptions that aren’t based on this thread of comments so it feels like you are fighting against a straw man of your own creation instead of actually engaging in this conversation.

Also, your contributions here have been directed more towards dismantling any suggestion without putting forth an alternative that could benefit this community. It is like you are fighting for the status quo and suggesting that we shouldn’t strive towards improving our quality of life

How is you moderating how much others get to believe in their potential to improve their own quality of life in any way a useful tool to anyone other than yourself?

The fact is that therapy and medical treatment is a statistically valid first step for people who suffer from ADHD and other similar disabilities/disorder. Those disabilities/disorders, if left untreated, statistically lower your quality of life, which can be measured by many different metrics. This is not anecdotal but based on the research done by people like Dr. Russell Barkley and others who have studied mental disabilities and disorders for decades while developing treatments for said disorders. I have read their books and feel their research stands on it own. You are welcome to debate their findings with said professionals in this field of study. No one said it works for everyone and no one said it is the only path. Again, it feels like you are debating arguments that no one is making.

I think it is unfair for you to put a ceiling on how much potential improvements that others can make to their own quality of life. I do not think it is helpful to “Well… Ackchyually” your opinion into the conversation to nitpick topicality of terms and to question the validity of proven starting points for people who want to seek help for their mental disability without providing alternative suggestions and beneficial contributions to the conversation.

[–] Rekorse@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 month ago

Who said I was limiting anything? I was advocating for making room in the pie chart of things that help with depression for another tool.

Either way I don't think either of us benefit from talking past each other like this.

Have a nice day stranger.