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I've recently met a man whose dating profile said that he's Graysexual. I tried Googling the term, but it's a bit confusing and I'm hoping to get a straightforward breakdown from the kind folks in this community.

From what I gather, it's a branch of asexuality that sometimes feels sexual attraction. That's a bit ambiguous, though.

I will ask the person directly once we've spoken more, but it will help to have a foundation of understanding beforehand. Thanks ahead of time!

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[–] hellfire103@lemmy.ca 15 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Graysexual (or greysexual) is essentially where a person falls somewhere between asexual and allosexual. This is, generally speaking, where somebody experiences sexual attraction but only very weakly or infrequently.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Thanks for your quick response! Is it basically like going through periods of sexual attraction that come and go? That's how my own sexuality has been my entire life and I thought that something was wrong with me - Like I can go several months without sex and be perfectly fine, then go two weeks of nonstop sexual energy. Never knew there was a term for this.

If that's it, it sounds like I might vibe with this new guy I started talking to.

[–] Seigest@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 months ago

You could ask the guy. If he's anything like me he's identifying as greysexual because out of pure confusion about where on the Ace spectrum they belong. They could be going though a period of change and questioning. Everyone's situation is going to be unquie.

[–] hellfire103@lemmy.ca 2 points 2 months ago

Maybe? I'd say that sounds more like aceflux. Graysexuality tends to be very infrequent or weak attraction.

Of course, it's your choice what label you use (if any at all). There can be a lot of overlap between different identities.