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I got diagnosed with ADHD and you will never hear me reference it for any excuse for anything ever. It's the worst crutch to excuse lack of self improvement.
All a person can do is deal with themselves and grow.
I regret society ever learning about it, it is so abused as an excuse to forgive a lack of personal awareness and growth.
I just roll my eyes at the shit people say claiming they have ADHD. Pathetic really.
I think it should be relative to the person's abilities. 8 hours of work, laundry, 50 minutes focussed studying, healthy dinner, remembering aunt's birthday and bedtime at 10 might seem reasonable to most. Some with ADHD might also pull it off. For others, their best is to do one of those things after work.
Different people, good and bad days. Absolute measure & judgement for everybody is the problem.
Lol, I never try to remember birthdays. I think days that are meant to make people feel special (aside from children) are inherently unhealthy. Valentine's , birthdays, mother's Day, father's day.... all days with false expectations that can wreck havoc on a person's moral when it doesn't unfold as they selfishly desire.
I found this stance works particularly well once I let this view be known to those around me, and everyone is happier for it.
When I do special things for people it's because I want to, and they know it, making it infinitely more special and intimate.
Then why are you projecting your own view of ADHD onto it? Not really dealing with yourself if you're judging everyone else with ADHD based off your own difficulties.
Only thing I'm rolling my eyes at here is blatant hypocrisy. Pathetic really.
I agree, systemglitch@lemmy.world sounds like an angry turd projecting their self hatred outwards.
Yeah.... their other comments don't really do anything else to dissuade someone from that conclusion either. Their other comments are all me me me. Calling everyone else selfish because they dare do something that systemglitch doesn't do. The narcissistic self attention here is on full display. They are taking everything about themselves, painting it on everyone else and then judging them for it because they can't bear to look inwards.
i am feeling attacked
Unless you're an alt of theirs then you're fine <3
Unrelated question: why is my Star Trek lemmy feed no longer constantly filled with your hilarious memes?
A combination of working stupid early hours and depression
Pathetic huh? Maybe dont be so desperate to paint other as the villain.
Good luck in life.
Dude, you started whining and complaining about people who you've invented in your head after basing all of the troubles of people you've never met off of what you've personally gone through. You literally started this. You don't get to whine when someone points out your behavior is no different than what you're complaining about. You created a strawman and lit it on fire.
You're a narcissist. I'm going to block you now because I can see absolutely zero value from anything that you're contributing. It's just malice, hatred, small mindedness, and self absorption. Especially when looking at your other comments in this thread like "I don't care about peoples birthdays, it's selfish bullshit and everyone loves me for it once I point that out." Jesus christ.
You sound like a real asshole.