US Authoritarianism

When I think of "traditional gender roles" I think of a loving mother who spends her days in the house cooking and cleaning and looking after the many children, and a loving father who spends his day toiling on the farm to provide food and money for the family.

None of that is non-consensual. I suppose your issue is one of, idk, semantics? Cause when you hear "traditional gender roles" you think of the legal system surrounding it that prevented a woman from leaving the relationship? But those systems were abusive because the people didn't have a choice of what role to play. Now there are many different roles one could play in a relationship, one of those roles are the traditional gender ones. Don't ask me why, it's very far from my first choice of marriage role, but the abuse came from the system surrounding the roles, not the roles themselves.

But at that point you're splitting hairs because your only issue is what they call it, but they call it "traditional gender roles" because most people know what they are talking about and don't associate abuse with it.