Can we get a KbinDrama mag, i've seen a lot of really weird or funny shenanigans in the comments and wish I could get a discussion over it

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I just had an idea and would like to hear your opinions: I always have to roll my eyes when I see how useless the poll feature on social platforms is. It's just a gimmick. But what if we make it better?

What if there was a kbin magazine where everybody can ask questions and every month the five most upvoted ones are shown as a pop up to some random accounts on that kbin instance? That way we could get a representative answer for at least the whole instance.

So I have thoughts about what if platforms that we seemly are trying to move away from such as Reddit decided to Fedirate and join the Fediverse.

Do you think it would be beneficial or practical in the long run?

How do you think people would change their thoughts of the Fediverse if platforms like Reddit did do this sort of thing?

What would you do if Reddit did join the Fediverse?

Greetings, Kbinners (and anyone else from the 'verse who might be reading this). Back on the platform most of us migrated from, there was/is a subreddit called r/menslib, which was like r/mensrights minus the misogyny and shitting on marginalized groups and minorities. Those of you who subbed will remember it was a great place to chat about mental health, gender roles, societal expectations, toxic masculinity, things like that.

So far, I've not been able to find its equivalent in the fediverse. Here on Kbin, there's m/men, but that basically mirrors the old mensrights sub. It's gross. I found https://lemmy.ca/c/mensliberation in lemmy.ca, but that community is small (9 members) and inactive. I used Kbin's magazine/community search and only found those two; I then tried Google, came up with no leads and figured either my Google fu just sucks or their algorithm is getting worse (likely both), so I tried duckduckgo and still found nothing. Pretty much everything I found that is even remotely related is from people looking for the same thing or is a post or comment on Reddit itself.

Is there a place out there like the old menslib? I mean, there must be, right? Help me, fediversers. You're my only hope.

Edit: I have been banned from m/men. I mean, that's fine, I wouldn't fit in there anyway, because I don't think men are the ones being oppressed.

Maybe this has been asked a million times (I didn't find it... links and useful search queries are appreciated). But how should I deal with a toxic friend in a group?

I'm sure this situation is very common.

More details below, you could just skip it :)

We are a large group 7-11 friends ages 20-30 (group A). The group is very nice, and I am the common friend with all of them. After the summer the group will be 5-7 friends (the others return home after 6 months), with the toxic friend and his girlfriend in the group. The rest of the friends were friends for longer.

The toxic is very subtle. I know him for 8+ years, I didn't like him at first but I don't remember why. Recently I have seen his subtle manipulative behavior with another circle of people (group B), somewhat larger and "less friends". He took the lead a long time ago, decreased meeting frequency by a lot.

[Edit: This paragraph is hard to understand, try to improve it]
This is an unsorted list of things (very broad) that I recently noticed:

• He is blaming others for things not going well.
• He blames other people for his own actions.
• Instead of working as a group, he works only with a friend and he does not report any kind of progress, we are "guilty" for not taking initiative.
• When a task has to be done, he asks very open-ended questions that nobody can answer in the chat. One of the persons that could have answered was outside the group because she was his ex and he didn't want to be in the chat with her. We had to forward messages back and forth between them, communication was a big issue, we hardly met in person this year. Then he blames that nobody answers his questions.

We said everything in the previous paragraph to him, we are "personally attacking him". The person that he blames the most for things not going well is her ex.
For rest of the group (except him and his friend), the bad atmosphere is his fault. We work well together, if someone doesn't have time to do something, someone else does it. We meet regularly, etc.
From now on we will be taking the lead so hopefully thing will go better. (He resigned willingly, as everything is falling apart from his point of view).

The issue remains with my group of friends, I'm good friends with the others, but I don't want to find myself in shitty situations with them.

Some time ago, in a smaller group 3-5 friends (group C), ages 20-25 I detected toxic behavior with one of the friends (always wanted the group to follow his plans). I didn't know how to handle the situation, so I showed up less with them using working on (group B) as an excuse, as I didn't want him to feel bad.
Just seeing the group less backfired with him being a very active member in group B just to keep the friendship with me.... Luckily he improved a lot recently, but we are still not so much friends as we once were.

Now talking about the toxic guy I'm currently asking:
I thing he is not ok and I'm a bit worried. Maybe he needs help, and if something like this happened to me, it would feel very bad if friends just vanished.

There is a lot of advice in the line of "you are not responsible for others feelings" and to avoid toxic people, this is what I followed the first time that I found myself in this situation. I'm not sure anymore how to deal with this.

I've you have read so far, thank you a lot :)

For any here who are both multilingual and also experience synesthesia/ideasthesia -- concepts such as numbers, days of the week, educational subjects, music, etc. being felt or experienced to have a specific color, taste, smell or whatnot -- is the color, etc. of that thing different depending on which language you're thinking in?

It has just occurred to me that while I've always pictured Thursday to be a kind of prussian blue, the turkish word for thursday (Perşembe) is bright carnation pink. Sunday is yellow (for obvious reasons), but Pazar is white. Same with anything else. Phys Ed has always been blue, but beden eğitimi is coffee-colored.

The differences with numbers, I could chalk up to relating them with whatever pictures I was given when I was first learning their names, but one cannot present an educational depiction of the concept of Tuesday.

I'd be dying to hear anyone else's experience with this. I'm super curious, especially, to hear if this difference still stands in people who grew up bilingual.

Seems like only thread replies show up. Is that expected? I would think all replies would show up in notification.

Anyone else miss StumbleUpon? I do.

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What's your favorite brand that doesn't require a personal loan like Snap-On? I want affordable Ugga duggas.

I really miss what Massdrop used to be. It was a cool mix of stuff. I'm looking for a site to discover cool stuff for niche interests.

Anyone have any suggestions?

edit: To clarify, I'm primarily just looking for a way to discover cool stuff for hobbits not necessarily the group buy mechanic.

So I help with a #TransPride website and wanted to implement ActivityPub into it allowing the Team to be able to write stuff on part of the Official Team.

To do this I'm using the ActivityPub Plugin on WordPress but it seems like the username get's cut off, is this due to the long domain or something else. Please help.

The username i'm trying to go for is: Sam@www.transpridesouthampton.org (If I can remove the www. that would be great) but on here it seems to have ended up being @ww.transpridesouthampton.org@kbin.social what doesn't make sense as I'm not using kbin for the backend.

Does anyone know how I can fix this?

Hey y'all, is there a way to expand media (images) in the main timeline without opening the whole thread? I don't want to use the auto expand setting since that expands all of them. Just a button to expand ones that look interesting. Thanks :)

Maybe I just miss Reddit is Fun, not Reddit, but I still have RiF installed (I just can't delete it) and it still "works". I can't sign in or participate, but fuck I miss browsing everything. I've definitely replaced it with Kbin, but opening the RiF app just gives me sadness. Fuck spez.

I hope more migrate here!

So I seem to have found smaller Magazines / Communities that haven't been on Kbin before and after finding them they seem to have no posts but after looking through Lemmy it seems they do have posts. Does it take time for Lemmy to add all the posts or is it only new posts that will come across?

What the title says. I think the site needs to reach critical mass sooner rather than later, and on top of the relatively low activity for now, we want to avoid obstacles to new migration, even if it's small convenience stuff. So, what would make your life easier as a kbin user?

Personally, I know I use the save button a lot for important resources and future reference. Even twitter has bookmarks! Correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think it's anywhere to be found. It's also my feeling that a lot of people would prefer the boost feature to be an effect of upvoting instead of a separate button. It makes sense as a kind of "retweet" thing for microblogging, but on the threads side, it doesn't really work with the magazine-centered instead of user-centered feed.

(not sure this is the right place for this discussion, but this is currently the largest mag about kbin itself, above kbin and kbinmeta)

Thank you for all your feedback on my @SamXavia account in my previous post about why you prefer Kbin, it really opened up my mind on why Kbin might be the better option.

Since I posted it I've learned a bit more about Kbin but would love to keep the previous content that I posted on Lemmy.world, Am I able to do this, and if I can how?

Is the reputation points like Karma on Reddit?

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Hello,
Recently created a Kbin account and started a magazine about Runescape, a very old game which I still play almost daily. I would love to change the default look of the magazine so it looks more inviting. Is there any documentation available on how to use CSS within Kbin?

Hi guys, kbin noob here. Usually I don't have much trouble subscribing to Lemmy communities from kbin especially if they're on the main Lemmy world instance, but I noticed that when I try to subscribe to https://awful.systems/c/sneerclub, I can't seem to find it in search.

What's happening here? Is it a problem on kbin's end or awful.systems' end? Should I just wait it out? Thanks!

EDIT: I did end up waiting it out, and they've fixed it already on their end!

I have most of the Fediverse-based account and seem to have just gravitated towards Lemmy over Kbin as found it very confusing, What makes you prefer Kbin over Lemmy or any other Fediverse instances?

I honestly don't think I can confidently define if/when there was a shift in morality on this topic.

So what is correct?

See the title. It's one of the few things that is preventing me from being able to browse super efficiently. Unfortunately a lot of my scrolling is going through the same stuff over and over.

Also hooray for more images being embedded so you can just hover over them with IMAGUS to see it!

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