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Welcome to femcel memes. A place where anybody can post memes that fit the vibe.

Warning: We have a tendency to post things that may at times come from a self-deprecating perspective or things that are funny coming from another queer person. This space will always be a safe place for transfems, non-binary people, people with a feminine gender expression (GNC or otherwise) or anybody else in the LGBT Community to come together and share about our experiences but we truly feel that laughing about the sometimes silly and embarrassing parts the queer experience can help bring us together. We never mean offense or harm in anything posted but rather they are satirical takes coming from queer people.

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[–] Colour_me_triggered@lemm.ee 9 points 7 months ago (1 children)

People say trans girls can't get pregnant, but I don't believe that and I'm happy to test the hypothesis.

[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Fact: 99% of people stop plapping right before finding the secret to Trans pregnancy

[–] Colour_me_triggered@lemm.ee 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I feel like the secret is going deep and often.

[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

The secret is to never stop plapping

[–] Colour_me_triggered@lemm.ee 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Sound advice.... Say, i don't suppose you know anyone looking for a 6'2" Scottish gigachad with a insatiable appetite?

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago

If you live in Scotland, join the independence movement. I suspect trans people will be more supportive of dismantling the shitty government than most other groups.

If you don't live in Scotland, go to a gender clinic with a giant sack labeled "TRANS GF" /s

[–] yuri@pawb.social 8 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Lmaooo dude fuck these genes anyway. The men in my family are all either shitty and abusive or depressed/dead from depression. Let’s gooooo

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago

Nature is not kind to women, but men aren't exactly fortunate. Evolution incentivizes a solid percentage of men to die prematurely via testosterone induced aggression in their early adulthood. They generally don't form the same sort of support systems as women, meaning that they're often alone in their darkest moments. There are other factors, but those probably play the biggest role in their suffering.

[–] Harbinger01173430@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

That's a result of society, not their genes.

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Not just society. People with differing gender identities think differently, while hormones also influence how you think. Testosterone makes all people more aggressive and people with more masc identities think differently to those with less masc identities. It's a spectrum with multiple dimensions that all contribute to one's internal range of comfortable identities. Who fucking knows the specifics, but that's probably the general picture.

Gender identity kind of needs to be based in biology rather than culture, because otherwise conversion therapy would work and social contagion theories would hold water. Queerness is based in biology, but scientific labels of normality are also socially constructed tools of power that can be used for abuse. Queer theory and evolution are not incompatible. Evolutionary science doesn't inherently invalidate nonbinary gender identities, and doesn't validate most aspects of binary sex. Only sex cells evolved to be inherently binary, everything else varies based on incentives rather than rules.

Talking about biology and evolution in regards to gender feels so icky to us because it has been used as a tool for oppression so much in the past. It's like race science used to justify oppression of non white people. They use the authority of science to say we don't exist, refuse to accurately document our experiences, apply cisheteronormative assumptions even when they don't make sense, and claim that we're all freaks of nature instead of nature working as intended.

Just like how racial minorities have taken evolutionary theory from white supremacists as an authoritative tool of oppression, we need to take it back from transphobes and transmeds that want to invalidate and abuse. They assume that we should model our lives after nature, but we really shouldn't. Nature thrives on death and suffering. It isn't enviable; we just need to figure out how to live in it.

[–] Donkter@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I think your point is confused. You seem to be saying that gender and biology are able to be linked and the issue is that the mode of linking them stems from an oppressive system. Which, I agree it's bad to link them in the way society does. But your last paragraph says racial minorities have "taken" evolutionary theories from white supremacists which seems to imply that there is an evolutionary theory that says some racial minority is superior to others and the issue is just that white people think it's them. Linking it to your other point you seem to think that some expression of gender within our current context is superior to some other.

I feel that it's pretty clear that things like gender and race are entirely socially constructed. Saying otherwise places an evolutionary imperative on the conclusion.

[–] lady_scarecrow@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

The idea that gender is entirely socially constructed is easily the greatest misconception about gender that gets repeated time and again -- almost always by cis people, who never think too much about it because they've never had to reconsider their own gender.

Gender roles and gender stereotypes really are socially constructed, like the idea that some clothes are feminine and others are masculine, just to name one example. Gender identity, however, is not. If that was true, like the previous commenter was saying, conversion therapy for trans people would work, when it's been shown it absolutely doesn't. Gender dysphoria isn't a social construct either. Many trans people see their own lives improve considerably after taking HRT (hormone therapy) and having gender-affirming surgeries -- how can that be explained socially? Also, we know there is a genetic component to being trans as well, because of twin studies. All of which shows there really is a biological component to gender -- just not in the "gender = genitals" way that transphobes think.

[–] Donkter@lemmy.world 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)

You're right, saying it's entirely socially constructed isn't right. That's my mistake. I was saying that in opposition to OPs comment which seemed to compare the differences between genders to the differences between races and tie biology into it, which is a much blurrier and socially constructed line.

[–] Pm_me_girl_dick@lemmyf.uk 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Ok I'm going to put my masters in neuroscience to good use. When right wing idiots talk about "biology" or "genetics" they always refer to karyotype IE XX Vs xy. But this is r******d. What makes you you isn't random DNA configurations as much as it is the downstream products of that. Neuronal connections and endocrine interactions

FMRI studies scans of trans women (pre and post HRT) are much more similar to cis women than to cis men. Again, this is also before HRT. So yeah at least in neuroscience gender is testable (to an extent) and supports the assertion that trans women are biologically women. The reverse is also true for trans men. It would also provide a clue as to where some of the dysphoria comes from. (Disconnect between the endocrine system and the nervous system) If your brain is in lady mode and it's being bombarded with testosterone it's not going to be happy. In order to get the two to match up you can either rewire the entire brain (not possible or advisable) or go on HRT.

Obviously gender affirming surgeries have their place, but making the hormones and the neurones cooperate is probably the most important thing as far as keeping the noggin healthy is concerned.

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago

I'm of the opinion that being queer is somewhat of an adaptation, even aiding in reproduction. Many queer people don't realize that they aren't cishet until many years after puberty. Science has focused on people that "always knew" that they were queer, often assuming that people who didn't aren't actually queer.

If anything, it makes way more sense for us to discover it later, if ever, as we can then pass on our genes when might not have otherwise. Lesbians and gay men often have kids, only to find out that they aren't straight and help raise the kids they might not have had if they knew earlier. It's not just kin selection that favors gay people.

Trans people also reproduce with cis people, as only a minority are exclusively heterosexual. Imagine a gay cis man, struggling with the expectations of needing to get with a woman, but always knowing he didn't want that. One day, l he finds someone assigned female by society, but who acts like a man in every way they can. This person would interact like one of the boys, as he thinks like a cis man on a neurological level. The gay dude was never interested in "females," but he falls for this person because they aren't really a woman beyond reproduction. He shacks up with the trans dude ofc, passing on his genes directly instead of through his kin.

Even straight trans people do T4T, so there really isn't anyone who can't directly pass on their genes unless there's something else causing infertility. Queer people don't need straight people to make more of us. Heteronormative assumptions from straight people that don't talk to us has prevented evolutionary biologists from understanding the true picture. They can't understand why we exist so they deny that we do. So dumb 🙄

[–] queermunist@lemmy.ml 5 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Well if my genes wanted me to procreate I'd have the equipment I need to get pregnant. Clearly I'm just supposed to be a good aunt for my much more productive sisters' children.

[–] wunami@lemmy.world 4 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

You're supposed to be your sisters' aunt?

[–] queermunist@lemmy.ml 4 points 7 months ago

rip me 💀

[–] celeste@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I wish HRT was more accessible 3:

[–] apotheotic@beehaw.org 1 points 7 months ago

Don't we all :(

[–] femboycuddles@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 6 months ago

FYI for german transfem people that want to have backup in case they ever want to have biological children (hate that word): Most insurances cover you freezing sperm if you get a note from you endocrinologist to the sperm bank.

[–] lurch@sh.itjust.works 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)

your left arrow implies not taking it would have you not wake up any more, ending your bloodline anyway

[–] good_girl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)
[–] lurch@sh.itjust.works 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)
[–] good_girl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 7 months ago

(HRT is considered life saving medicine to a lot of trans people)

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Wait really, this happen? I mean, It wouldn't make me want to not do it, buuut

[–] lady_scarecrow@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 7 months ago

HRT affects your fertility but doesn't make it drop to zero. Trans women who top and whose partner has a uterus still need to take precautions to avoid an unwanted pregnancy.