Feeling better which is nice. Still going to spend the day in bed though. At least I can get out and go get a coffee without passing out.
Got my nurse here to hang out as well
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Watched 4 corners about the school refusal last night and it resonated very strongly with me. Especially the lady who said, "If tough love worked my kid would be at school." The parents who accused their kids of being lazy, who opened the curtains and pulled the blankets off their kids, who've shouted and tried to push and push.. yeah I've done some bad parenting in the past and I'm not proud. I had to question where this was coming from within me (thanks mum and dad!) and be flexible as a parent and completely change strategies.
I've scheduled a meeting with Elder's school later this week to develop a plan to get him back to school, starting with a reduced hours timetable. It'll have to accommodate his fortnightly sessions. I'll be asking for extra tutoring for him to help him get up to speed. He's basically missed the whole year at this point. Whatever they can offer, I'm going to push for, and more. The squeaky wheel gets the grease!
Wishing you all the best on this fight. โฅ
Thankyou โฅ๏ธ
I wrote about that article yesterday lol; I was a school refuser.
You're doing great! Advocating for your kid! Seriously, school refusing isn't a comment on your parenting, and you're going about this all the right ways
Sending my love and support to you and your kids ๐๐๐
I didn't see your comment yesterday, but I just read it and it resonated with me. I also wrote about it, although I left my comment over on the news thread in c/Australia
I just read yours, and I'm so sorry. You have been through so much at such a young age.
I moved around a lot too, lived in approx 15 houses before I was an adult, and then another 3 times after that. Mostly around SE Melbourne though (The Basin, Croydon, Lysterfield, Knoxfield, etc.)Low-income family as well.
It's traumatic, not being able to form lasting connections with your peers, and being just that slightly different from the "norm" they expect. The verbal and physical abuse is insane when you don't "fit in" or have a sense of belonging, almost like our peers could smell it or sense it somehow. Rabid scoundrels. I read so many books, fantasy, horror, sci-fi, history, etc so it was difficult for my school to realise I needed help, they just saw me as absent but quiet and intelligent when present. Pushed me into VCE because they needed the stats for funding lol. I should have been put into the VCE Vocational, because there was no way my grades were so good as to get into Uni lol
I can say, reading your posts here and that post detailing your experiences, you are incredibly intelligent and wise (though wisdom does often cost more than it ought to); you certainly know things I didn't at your age. You shouldn't have had to grow up experiencing any of that, but you are a well rounded, kind human. Seriously, I'm not just saying that. As long as you are not afraid to ask for help when you need it, things will work out for you. They already seem to be and you certainly have my support! If you need help, I will do my best to assist if you ask ๐
You carry your kindness, your wisdom, and you take the silver linings from the black clouds and weave the person you want to be from those. Kindness, cleverness, intelligence, and empathy, while keeping yourself safe, will lead you to long lasting happiness and success; whatever that may look like. We are more than the sum of our past.
You got this Baku, and we're here for you should you need us.
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I donโt have kids and I watched it and was saddened by the experience these kids are having. I wonder why itโs on the rise. I think more proper research is needed. As someone who went to school decades ago, to me it seems like school is now a lot freerer and adaptive with more supports available than ever before, but itโs not working or having the intended effect? I imagine itโs so tough for the parents. And if a kid falls behind at school it probably just makes it even more terrifying to go, because now they might also feel shame that they arenโt at same level as the other kids. Is catch up tutoring available for those kids? Peeler you are doing great to be advocating for your kids, they are lucky to have you looking out for them.
Felt a bit insulting seeing the "the federal government has stated they will consider further research into school refusal" at the end of the 4C episode. It's not the fucking metro tunnel, you don't need a business case. You see a problem, you don't know why it's a problem or how to fix it, you order some research to figure out the root causes of the problem, and then you try to solve the problem. It's not rocket science
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OH! I forgot that came out last night. I'll have to try and watch it today.
Did it cover anything the article didn't, or was it essentially just the article in video form?
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Tipping this is one of those things where I bet everyone is an expert until they actually experience it, and realize their preconceived ideas amount to approx. jack shit in the face of a stressed or defiant kid/teen.
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Got offered a role in Sydney for insane money. Can't do it though, spewing it's not Melbourne based.
Argh! Would you not consider moving at all? (I mean don't, Sydney sucks, but insane money is tempting...)
There's gotta be a good role coming for you soon! The fact that you're still getting offers is 100% worth keeping in mind
Honestly I'm thinking about it. Hopefully they can let me commute once a fortnight and do the rest remote.... But you're right, getting considered for these roles is a great sign!
settled on pumpkin soup for lunch. It was ok, but for 14 bucks for a bowl of soup and 2 pieces of multigrain bread I can probably make it at home cheaper and have more serves.
Good soup is not cheap to make, minestrone especially. And then there is time and rent.
The big problem is our wages have stagnated so much the past few decades everyday items are becoming unaffordable.
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It had only been around 6 hours into a cross country trip. Slow hum of the desert and a lonely dark highway road made the travel quite boring. Since my mate was driving, I nodded off a bit and fell into an uncomfortable sleep. I remember being catapulted out of a dream to see we had crossed the painted line and into the oncoming traffic.
โWhat are you doing!?!โ I shouted !
โIโm CRASHING!!โ replied the driver, as he over corrected and sent us off-road. The vehicle flipped several times and landed butter side up. We had come to rest before I fully realised what transpired. Car was totaled.
We both walked away unscathed and purchased airline tickets the next day. We needed to be en route.
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Stomach rant
Ugh. I've been in severe pain for so long and have barely been able to eat. I really miss it. My current gastros haven't been taking me seriously so I'm waiting on new ones. However I've just got a new physio with experience in rare disabilities and they've floated a potential cause to explore.
Finally found a really good astronomy podcast - AstronomyCast - and it has hundreds of episodes. I tried StarTalk and sorta hated it because I find deGrasse Tyson to be a bit of a dick. I'm up to episode 25 - how galaxies are formed. Thinking about this stuff blows my mind all the time.
Especially the mind-blowing scale of everything - puts it all in perspective really
So looks like Bonza airline is going to go bust. Honestly apart from flying routes without the required critical mass, maybe if their branding wasn't a complete joke with cringe Aussie jingoism they might have done better. Just sayin.
Not a good news story, we need more competition in domestic aviation. But I feel like Bonza never stood a chance. Strange route choices and being forced to book via an app, among other issues.
TBH, I'd fly with Satan Airlines if they were a viable 3rd party competitor. But Satan airlines needs to be going where I'm going. Bonza never did.
Maybe I should start an airline called Jezebel Airways.
Prometheus transport.
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The news has been so triggering, but I keep reading and commenting and getting into silly Internet fights like an idiot.
personal and raw feelings>
The endless conflicts, the brutalisation of minorities, the disgusting vitriol that internet boys perpetuate, the trolls, the abuse of women, the not listening to women, the pain of a lost childhood, the pain of lost 20s.
I can feel my soul spiralling, my brain shutting down like a rusted motor, sputtering, coughing up a malaise that falls heavy upon my heart and my stomach. A suffocating veil over my eyes, so all I can see is the hate and the pain, and all I can feel is loss. I've grieved so much, about so much, how can I keep grieving? What more can I lament? Must I be so sensitive, so raw, as to feel a slight scratch as an open wound, gushing my energy out into a cold, deaf void?
I must take a break, focus on something else entirely.
I must take a break, focus on something else entirely.
yes
I've stopped listening to news and news based podcasts and psych podcasts , it is taking a while to recalibrate my focus but I can already feel myself be less anxious
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Minicalhoon2 was taught the Dm chord by her uke teacher today. They said he called it the saddest chord.
Passed out for four hours from 5pm to 9pm, like, legit passed out lol. Struggled to sleep the rest of the night. My lymph nodes seem to be working double time; both my pits and my throat are very painful.
(Always look) On the bright side, puss has been snoozing on my legs all night. Even when I'm restless, he'll jump off but come back as soon as I settled. He's a gem ๐๐
Breakfast ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ซ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ฅญ๐๐ฅฅ๐ฅฆ๐ฅ๐ซ๐๐ ๐ฅ๐ฅฌ๐ฅ๐ฝ๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ ๐ซ๐ฅ๐ง ๐ฅฏ๐๐ฅ๐ฅจ๐ง๐ง๐ฅ๐ง๐ณ๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฅฉ๐๐๐ซ๐๐๐๐ญ๐ฅ๐ง๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ฒ๐๐๐ฅ๐๐ฃ๐ฑ๐ฅ๐ฆช๐ฅ๐๐๐๐ ๐ค๐ชผ๐ฆ๐ ๐๐ฅฎ๐ข๐ก๐ง๐ฐ๐ง๐ฅง๐ฆ๐จ๐๐ฎ๐ญ๐ฌ๐ซ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ช๐ฟ๐ฏ๐ฅโ๏ธ๐ต๐บ๐ถ๐ฅค๐ง๐ง๐ฅ๐ท๐ฅ๐ธ๐น๐ง๐o
A mixture of sugar and used coffee grounds, sprinkled on bread. Like some sort of demented fairy bread. Maybe we could call it goblin bread?
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Last last night I couldn't sleep and ended up conking out around midday, which screwed me over last night :/
I don't know whether I should nap or not. I only have 1 thing to do today which is in the late Arvo, so I could have a nap either now or around noon, but then it feels like I'm surrendering to the bad sleep cycle again. But on the other hand if I don't and I fall asleep and miss my thing, that's probably a worse outcome
Oh, and I don't remember who suggested iherb for melatonin but I've given up trying to get an actual prescription for it, so thanks for the recco. I'll order some next week
I'm gonna put my mummy hat on and tell you, you need a regular bedtime. As a mother of a teen the same age as you I will tell you since she started going to bed around 10pm her mental health has improved immensely. Before she was a freaking nightmare.
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melatonin
Just a heads up i found this a bit hit miss. Sometimes it worked a treat! Other times it only minorly helped and left me with a pretty bad hangover.
Hangover every time for me, even on 1mg. 1/7 would not recommend if me.
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Take a nap, but set an alarm. And take it earlier than midday so you have time to centre yourself. If I need a nap, I generally try for an hour or an hour and a half. Less likely to wake up confused.
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Gah! No I cannot in practicality help rehome semi feral cats located in Orange.
anyone had any luck getting the flu and covid shots at the same time? I'm a bit time poor, and if I can do it all in one hit I can line up a time with the mrs her her to be standby parent in charge in case it zaps me.
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