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That's true to an extent, but maybe there's more to it than that. The older people I know seem to have more, well, I'm not sure how to put it... Willpower? My psychologist is an elderly woman and she says that if she decides she ought to do something, she just does it. What she feels doesn't matter. My older relatives act like that too. Their ability to endure emotional (and physical) pain and keep going is remarkable.
People are downvoting you, but I think you are on to something.
My parents and grandparents are/were quite similar to me, but never diagnosed. It wouldn't surprise me if a few of them also have/had ADHD.
That said, without therapy or medication I noticed that they learned to just plough through. That was their coping strategy. It isn't 100% successful, but it was what they had.
I also think the distractions of modern life don't help. With smartphones, the internet, games and streaming services - there are just so many distractions that make life harder.
Perhaps "ploughing through" would work better without all the distractions.
They just drank and smoked instead, those are just different coping mechanisms after all.
My parents and grandparents neither smoked nor drunk. Only one grandparent was a light pipe smoker.