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The Washington Post is very worried that American women don't want to marry Trump supporters (www.dailykos.com)

submitted 11 months ago by DevCat@lemmy.world to c/usa@lemmy.ml

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In an editorial published last week titled, “If Attitudes Don’t Shift, A Political Dating Mismatch Will Threaten Marriage,” The Washington Post’s editorial board points out that political polarization in this country has reached the point where it is now a prominent, often decisive factor in determining who Americans settle on as their potential mates. They emphasize this trend is now so acute it may actually threaten the institution of marriage as a whole. In particular, it seems that Democratic women are rejecting potential Republican suitors not only for marriage but as relationship material, all across the board. The message the editorial conveys—perhaps hyperbolically, perhaps not—is that as a consequence of this shift in attitudes, marriage itself in this country is in jeopardy.

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[–] MeaanBeaan@lemmy.world 17 points 11 months ago (8 children)

I don't really understand the fear mongering going on here. It's not like if we decline past a certain level of marriages that all of a sudden marriages would go extinct. People who want to get married will still get married and people who don't, won't.

But I mean, even if they did, would we really be losing much anyway? Marriage has never quite made sense to me other than for tax purposes (which is a pretty cruddy reason to formalize being with someone forever imo)

It's always seemed super short sighted. People change. And you can't predict how they may change. Your partner that you love now could end up changing into someone you no longer love or worse. Committing to forever is just promising that you'll stay with them even if they make you profoundly unhappy. I've only got this one life to live. I'm not commiting all of it to someone I may not like being around later on.

[–] odium@lemmy.world 4 points 11 months ago

You're missing an important part in what marriage does: Formal representation for each other, may it be law or health. That means you have someone can make decisions for you if you're not able to (or get information about your where abouts). If both expect to stay together some time it simplifies a lot of things.

And if it turns out you don't like each other anymore, there is always the option to get divorced.

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