Today it was supposed that I should be studying during the afternoon/evening. Instead, I'm doing nothing but thinking about me studying, incapable of performing that action.

[–] ickplant@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That's so relatable!

I'm supposed to read these 3 in-depth research articles before a 2-day training that starts tomorrow, and I haven't even begun looking at them. The inner panic is real. Yet here I am on lemmy...

All I know is if we shame ourselves, it will get worse and we will be more paralyzed into inaction. My rule is, if I can't get to positive self-talk, I aim for neutral. So, instead of "omg, you're such a piece of shit, why can't you just do this like a normal fucking person" I might say to myself "OK, you are struggling to do what you need to do. It's not ideal and it's also explained by your neurodivergent brain. You're not lazy, but you also can't sit there completely frozen. What's one tiny step you can take towards your goal?"

I'm not saying it works 100% of the time, but it's certainly better than sitting in shame and putting yourself on blast.

[–] notacat@mander.xyz 6 points 1 year ago

I love this and will bookmark this and proceed to forget about it until I randomly find it while looking for another bookmark.