A common trope I see in atheist circles are people (often claiming to be atheists themselves, and I'm sure many genuinely are) going around chiding other atheists for being mean, rude, or otherwise disrespectful to believers. It's counterproductive! It doesn't work! It paints us in a bad light!
Often enough, these criticisms are an example of concern trolling, someone telling us what to do because they don't agree with what we're trying to do. Greta Christina correctly pointed out that when they do us, they're trying to get us to lay down the weapons we use to fight back against what's done to us. They're trying to get us to surrender our power.
Atheists are often caustic, sarcastic, and generally unpleasant with believers. I built up quite a reputation for snark in my days on reddit, and I have no doubt I'll continue that tradition on lemmy. Why is that? Because reciprocity is a fundamental aspect of morality. We give back what we get, and in places like the US atheists are not treated very well. So a lot of atheists will either hide or they'll fight back. Personally, I switch between them depending on my mood and circumstances. I also observe that for centuries, atheists did their best to stay quiet and get along without any reduction in the abuse they received. This quote comes from Madalyn Murray O'Hair, the founder of American Atheists:
I'll tell you what you did with Atheists for about 1500 years. You outlawed them from the universities or any teaching careers, besmirched their reputations, banned or burned their books or their writings of any kind, drove them into exile, humiliated them, seized their properties, arrested them for blasphemy. You dehumanised them with beatings and exquisite torture, gouged out their eyes, slit their tongues, stretched, crushed, or broke their limbs, tore off their breasts if they were women, crushed their scrotums if they were men, imprisoned them, stabbed them, disembowelled them, hanged them, burnt them alive.
And you have nerve enough to complain to me that I laugh at you.
So what's the point in being a dick to believers? It can have more utility than people realize. Sometimes being a dick to dickish people helps contain them. Sometimes there's utility in tactical dickishness. This is a problem that needs to be attacked from multiple different angles, not just the one that you think best.
I think Daniel Dennett said it best:
I listen to all these complaints about rudeness and intemperateness, and the opinion that I come to is that there is no polite way of asking somebody: have you considered the possibility that your entire life has been devoted to a delusion? But that’s a good question to ask. Of course we should ask that question and of course it’s going to offend people. Tough.
By all means, fight fire with fire, but you don't get to fight historical fire with fire against people who never wronged you or tried to convert you. The only actual fact is that you don't know any better that there is not a god/creator than they know that there is and vice versa. Neither a strong belief that god does or does not exist is supported by logic, reason, or science. The only logical conclusion is that we don't know. That also makes the often touted (and childish) belief that atheists are smarter than theists for not believing a non-starter. You don't know that you're right and neither do they.
I'm not saying that I'm smarter because I'm an atheist. Atheism doesn't mean I'm automatically a better person. Atheism isn't a magic spell that makes me smarter, stronger, faster, more moral or ethical than someone who believes in a god. Atheism challenges me to reconsider questions that I used to consider sufficiently answered by religion such as science, morality and ethics but that doesn't guarantee I'm going to do a good job with it. I am still the same person I was when I was standing behind the podium leading the church congregation in singing religious hymns, I just no longer believe what religions claim about reality and I don't participate in church any longer.
Atheism doesn't mean I know there are no gods. I suspect there aren't, because religious claims about gods and reality don't stand up to scrutiny. The more excuses you have to make for why reality doesn't work the way you insist it should, the less inclined I am to believe you know what you're talking about. Arguing for a prime mover or appealing to consequences doesn't convince me either. I'm intellectually honest enough to say that I don't have concrete knowledge that there are no gods the way I know there's no money in my wallet, but not being able to prove there are no gods isn't enough for me to believe that there are. Wanting to believe there are gods is no more useful than wanting there to be money in my wallet. It's still a claim that requires validation, not a default assumption.
The point here is simply to push back on people who would concern troll me if I'm less than polite to people who would happily lock me away or force me to church because I dare to disagree with them. Being mean to someone who never brought up their religion isn't cool. Submitting to or otherwise ignoring people who would abuse me for not attending their church is likewise not cool. Someone needs to stand up and point out that a secular society doesn't allow religious beliefs to be used as justification to be dicks. And sometimes you have to be a dick to get that point across.
I personally always considered god belief on two axes... Axises? Axii? Gnostic and Agnostic on one and theist and atheist on the other. For those that don't know, gnostic means you're absolutely sure your belief is true, and Agnostic is the opposite, you're not sure or don't know.
There are both gnostic theists and gnostic atheists who are both equally sure they have it right.
If I had to describe myself I would probably be just Agnostic. I don't think the Judeo-Christian idea of God exists, but I know that I can never know for sure, and maybe there is a higher power out there, even if it's nowhere near as high a power as the bible would claim. I very much so resonate more with pagan pantheons where Gods are fallible, have weaknesses, and even fail to defeat mortals from time to time.
Right. I always call myself an agnostic atheist. "I don't know" is why I say "I don't believe."
This is exactly my conceptualization of belief as well, including the 2 axes. It's conceptualized as the spectrum of theistic probability but you could just as easily count the center as agnostic and the poles as gnostic. As an agnostic, theists and atheists don't bother me at all until they start heading further from the center, into pretending that their belief system is correct, more conclusive, more intelligent, etc. I'd defend either theists or atheists from the gnostics in the opposite camp.