I think that last sentence is pretty reasonable. I haven't watched the video but of your summary, I have a few things I take issue with that would probably deter me from watching.
"Understand or recognize what’s desirable about your masculinity or yourself through the lens of those you’re interested in being with, so if you’re straight, listen to & pay attention to what straight women are drawn to in straight men.". The first part of this sentence seems reasonable, however, if you were to say the reverse and a straight woman should pay attention to what a straight man wants, that would be perceived as hyper offensive. Woman's behaviour should not be defined by men, and men's behaviour should not be defined by women. While partners are a key stakeholder, they shouldn't define behaviour.
Integrity is important, and doing what you feel is the right thing, regardless of whether the partner values it. Self-respect is everything. It brings out confidence and that is attractive. This kind of ties into the second paragraph which is good and correct imho. I think it's important to understand yourself, what makes you who you are. Sometimes female partners can display a negative reaction to a guy who is distressed or wants to cry. Not crying isn't helpful. Sometimes you feel sad and distressed and you want to understand how you feel about it. Sometimes women enforce negative male stereotypes. In the past, I've found relationships turn south when I've been vulnerable and opened up. They then ask when men don't talk. They don't talk because they frequently receive negative reactions from both men and women when they do. In many ways, we are all human, and fragile, and we can also draw strength from our respective energies. This doesn't really take a gendered view. Some guys have plenty of feminine energy, and some women have plenty of masculine energy. You'll naturally end up miserable if you don't live true to yourself and try to understand yourself and your feelings.
Federation has failed on this, and due to the strong stance from moderators here on defederation from threads, I have made an account here:
I have a post here, but I will also post from that account to confirm it is me: https://lemmy.ml/post/2249613