Blazingtransfem98

If you imagine and act on your own you're going to be much less successful than if you also connect with others.

I guess that makes sense, still is incredible.

Not the OP, but I am transfem myself. No unfortunately beard doesn't go away with hormones. It grows slightly more slowly and the hairs are finer, but it's still there. I haven't had laser or electrolysis to remove the hairs permanently so I still have to shave. I hate it so much, I wish my beard would just go away 😭

That's incredible, all that from just 3 months of HRT. It's really impressive. I wish I were that lucky, it took me more than 3 years to get much progress on HRT myself.

Ada seems really cool, she does a lot for this community and won't take shit from transphobes, which seem to be most of the people I see complaining about her, transphobes and their "centrist" apologists. IMO those are the one group of people you don't try to please, them not being pleased is a good thing.

Guantanamo is a Cuban base used by America, same thing different context.

It's the only worthwhile response. If you try to debate them, they will just toy with you and give garbage arguments, then go silent when they run out of useless arguments.

Found another one of them.

Just in case it's not clear, there are indeed people with ideas so toxic and so dangerous they need to be removed. Otherwise they will ruin it for everyone. When you tolerate the intolerant, tolerance is eventually seized and destroyed by the intolerant.

This isn't a case of disagreeing, this is by far the most common misrepresentation that centrist apologists use to try and vilify the banning and ostracizing of bigots and harmful ideology. There is no comparison to disagreeing about flavors of ice cream, to not wanting someone who hates trans people in your community where trans people hang out. Any attempt to do so is a bad faith comparison, because they are not equivalent.

I was pointing out that out of the three that we have here, the .ml one has the least problems. Maybe it isn't perfect but the .zip one is run by a transphobia apologist who literally did it in this community, and the .world one is crawling with with transphobes and transphobia apologists.

Maybe lemmy.ml as an instance isn't super great, I can understand that. I know about the controversy with Nutomic. I just wanted to suggest an alternative to using the one on lemmy.zip and I don't think it's a great idea to use the one on lemmy.world because lemmy.world as an instance has a transphobia problem among their userbase, and it's really bad to be there as someone openly trans or visibly queer.

I changed my post not to recommend lemmy.ml specifically, and instead be about the event itself without offering any recommendations of alternatives specifically. What matters most is that people here know about this and don't continue using a community run by a transphobia apologist.

Just as well, the Lemmy.world one was filled with transphobes and transphobia apologists. No progress to be made there unfortunately.

Lemmy.world might be a lost cause, maybe defederation of .world should be more widely considered...

It's almost certainly transphobic people or bots run by transphobic people. Either way people who don't bring anything positive to the discussion and who bear hostility to the trans community, hence why I say the downvotes on the post can be used to find some of the more quiet transphobes and ban them.

what qualifies as “just asking questions”

You just highlighted a transphobic dogwhistle, where people claim to be "just asking questions" and their questions are by nature invalidating or attempting to be invalidating towards trans people.

if you want to know what I meant by downvotes in the thread, many people who are transphobic aren't bold enough to express it directly, they do it indirectly claiming they are just asking questions or that they just don't support that one basic things that trans people expect to receive. Some are even more less direct, lurking and hiding but they still express their distain and transphobia through downvotes. On Reddit they were practically anonymous. The fediverse though allows votes to be seen by instance admins, so it's really easy for admins to find the ones doing this and give them the boot. Votes aren't anonymous.

I already did provide you with criteria for what counts as transphobia, though from what you've said here you sound like a typical apologist and discussion will likely not go anywhere.