Big argument with my partner last night. 12 years, two kids, one dog. It's hard man. So much pressure, so many missed meanings, so many regretted words. Some ethereal thinking music on the walk with the doggo this morning - https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=sUn3tQTeBtg&si=8z0KsaEHL5QEQVNc
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if you love her if you feel you can't live without her tell her
It can be so hard, but maybe it can be seen as an opportunity to reconnect? Heat of the moment things can be painful and but sometimes we need to look past them. Small things over time become bigger things. We all want feel seen, heard and validated and beyond that see actual lasting change or improvement. Hope you can come to each other with kindness.
Hopefully with some good communication, you guys can make some decisions that will suit you both - no matter what way it goes. Be kind to yourself today!
Bro I absolutely know those feels. Last couple of big fights its gotten to the point where I've started to suggest we get some professional help. Take some time, take some deep breaths, but just know this is all normal.
so its been a week. Had to take kid to emergency yesterday. Hes been released and fine now, just a bunch of viruses running rampant on him but the MCH and GP both said "yeah, lets get the hospital to check him out". I thought I kept my cool under pressure pretty well, but came home last night got him to bed and just kind collapsed on the couch like "holly fucking shit that was one of the hardest days of my life".
It comes very close to the 12 month anniversary of the LAST hardest days of my life that also involve a him and a hospital. So if we made a year before taking him to the hospital we've done pretty well. Shout out to the MCH Hotline, the GP and the Monash health staff. All were simply amazing.
It's important to recognise how exhausting kids are, especially when they're sick and needing that extra hospital help. We get so caught up with keeping up that we forget it's okay to stop and rest, so enjoy that couch time.
Iβm glad Tinyest is only ordinary sick rather than Dangerous Sick. Poor lad
When working from home, is it acceptable to work in your jammies?
Iβm wide awake, but Iβm really comfy
not only is it acceptable, it is expected
Absolutely. Just have something nearby to put on the top half for any video calls.
Business on top, jami-party on the bottom!
Gah! I just remembered, went and made it and then realized I was beaten.
I should look into automating these.
Possibly Brisbane has one, βbrisbotβ makes their daily thread. May they could kindly share their method? Would be awesome if it could be automated!
Tried something novel last night. Went to bed without the aid of electronics. Phone went on the charger and my head hit the pillow. 8 hours of sleep later, I feel fantabulous.
Just got stared down by this big fella. Almost my height (193....π³)
An evening of video games and music I think. Tomorrow night is an emo event which should be fun.
Also, am desperate for a shitty Domino's pizza but am sticking to my chicken and veggies dinner.
haaa. one group's email lists at work have buggered up, and they've been emailing the entire organisation (thousands of people) instead of just the people on their lists. We have been receiving weird, random emails for a couple of days, and they have just figured it out...
About 1/3rd of the way through making the chilli dust. Wore gloves as per Seagoons very sage advice and it went through them heh.
For the next 2/3rds I will double glove, and wear an N95... and goggles.
This morning was brutal.
I'm getting yt recommendations on how to be an elegant and chic older woman.
Seems I should only wear red nails and lips, never wear anything but simple hoops and studs, no long hair , no dyed hair, no fun clothes, only classics, lots of gold, beige, sailor stripes and be very very thin
If there is no room for my mushroom pants and matching earrings or totoros on my finger nails or bag I'd rather not be chic
well, chic for when it calls for it, otherwise, I'm a carlton/brunnie girl
Totoro is awesome.
You do Totoro nails? Yay! I have been known to Resident Evil.
Otherwise, fuck that shit!
The story so far: in the beginning, the universe was created.
This has made a lot of people very angry and been widely regarded as a bad move.
So long and thanks for all the fish
Hoped to get done with work early but the shite hit the fan so I'm working back to clean up. luckily I'm WFH today so I have poured a glass of wine and opened a packet of chippies to see me through. cheers π₯
wine /alcohol talk
Also shout out to tread softly wine ~10-15 bucks a bottle, low preservative (one of the few that doesn't leave me with a head ache) and slightly lower alcohol. They do a couple that are about half strength too which is good if you want a wine but without the wine headache. I've tried a few zero alcohol ones but few taste just right to me
Tea time. I bring bickies.
I feel sorry for the little dude on the left wearing green undies and ball gag mask just fell into the pile.
i didn't expect to use that sentence today.
He's got a mate. Look on the right.
An orgy of biscuits. I'm in! β
It rained in Perth today. We are not equipped to handle it.
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-04-12/freak-storm-causes-damage-in-perth-northern-suburbs/103702586
What is this wet stuff falling from the sky?!
if any of you podcast listening types like factual/often historical learning type podcasts, I highly recommend "The Constant".
Another slow start to the day but I didn't sleep in this time.
Working at another site, a lot peaceful and quieter here actually, wish I could end my day here.
Came here today specifically during a certain time to be available to people if they wanted to see me and found out I've actually come at the worst possible time and no one is available so it's just going to be a quiet day here while I listen to podcasts.
Going to have to organise a different time for when people are available for next week and the future.
I really need to finish my assignment but I'm sitting here wasting time on my tablet instead. My brain really does not want to focus on this one.
I'm addicted to mini callipos. God they're so damn good.
Plumber said he would come after lunch and give me an hour notice. This is after he was supposed to come last week and just never showed up. Then it took him 3 days to message me acknowledging that he didnβt show.
Itβs 4pm now, still no news. Wonβt be giving him another chance. Uggh why is organising any trade always so painful?
Ahh the weekend.
I feel like I didnβt get much work done today.
After coming back from being offsite I had to organise a bunch of things and it seemed to keep going on forever and ever and then I decide to finally take my lunch break late then next hung you know thereβs only 10 mins left of being at work.
Left me a little moody though taking my break so late but I did get in a late coffee.
Yesterday's car expedition and dilemma took a huge chunk out of me. Not so much the travel, but I think feeling like I was internally pitting my friends/family against each other in terms of their values.
rambling
On the one hand there's a sort of "you middle class wimps are suckers worrying about the wrong thing" vibe from working class folks who have a long history of driving shitboxes that they kept running with mates or family doing the servicing. Higher risk tolerance to save on money upfront. More likely to buy from an auction and make it work. DIY everything as much as possible. If not then flog it off.
On the other there's people who call that a "poverty mindset" and point out that thinking that way traps people in the same financial situation because of the false economy from cutting corners, relying on a cycle of people undervaluing their time and effort on these things (rather than on building their capacity to earn a higher income and not need to worry so much about these things). Almost as if to say "don't end up like those suckers thinking they're being smart - look at where they're still at after all these years, they don't see the bigger game".
That's not taking into account personality differences and everything. These are all other people that have nothing to do with each other but I find it hard to come to my own conclusion and not feel like I'm taking sides for some reason.
Anyway, the person I trust most was once in the first category but worked his way up into the second and gave me some very sound advice based not just off personal anecdotes but opportunity cost etc etc.
And the people I know in category one, I do love them to bits, but I've come to realise, I actually really, really don't aspire to be them... and it feels bad to admit that even to myself.
As someone who was in category one but is now in two, hereβs my take on it. Category 1 is great only if you are either mechanically handy yourself, or you know people that are. Category one people are not really taking a risk, they have a cousin/freind/inlaw who can help them do work at low or no cost if needed, only parts. So if you are not in that social situation category one is more risky, because you may have to fork out $$$ if something major breaks down. Nothing wrong with having reliability and low running costs on your list of priorities for car selection.
$8 for a brick of cooking butter? Fuck off. (I got the off brand instead) What happened to making biscuits being a cheap activity you could let kids ruin just for fun?
Butter has definitely gone up. Even the cheap stuff is not so cheap any more.
Today's really felt cold and uncomfortable. Like we skipped autumn and went straight into winter. My feet are like ice blocks
Is there a band or artist you're not really into but they have a song you think is quite good?
Mine is Flowers by Miley Cyrus.