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[–] sludge@beehaw.org 97 points 1 year ago (3 children)

“Until the age of 18, I believe you belong to your parents,” this is a disgusting view.

[–] Sharkwellington@lemmy.one 45 points 1 year ago

People who hold this view: "Why don't my children talk to me anymore?"

[–] dumples@kbin.social 28 points 1 year ago (2 children)

This is the start of the idea that a man owns this wife and the rest of his family. This is just the start of the domination and control for hierarchial power. Keep this in mind for all the talk about school choice

[–] jarfil@beehaw.org 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

In a world where every man is a rapist, and every woman is incapable of fending for herself... "protection", control, hierarchical power, are just pieces that fall into place by themselves.

Once inequality gets entrenched as a fact, nothing good can come out of it.

[–] megopie@beehaw.org 9 points 1 year ago

More like a reactionary return to than the the start of.

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[–] Sharkwellington@lemmy.one 81 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Can we please move past this puritanical fear of the existence of sexual acts between consenting adults?

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Stewart added, “I personally don’t feel comfortable with the plus category only because I don’t understand it and I have never gotten a clear answer.”

I doubt this person has ever had an honest conversation on the subject. Aside from that, "I don't understand this" is not an excuse to vote against something, either bring in someone to explain it to you or abstain from voting because you aren't qualified.

[–] SuperPillowFishRoe@beehaw.org 33 points 1 year ago (2 children)

"Never got a clear answer" is just code for them admitting they never cared enough to understand

[–] Sharkwellington@lemmy.one 17 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yep, in my experience "I don't understand this" means "I don't want to understand this."

At least when "I don't understand this" is used as an excuse to for things like this.

There are times where I feel like I don't understand things, maybe partly because I'm probably autistic and probably deal with dpdr. I'm still not confident in my understanding of sexual attraction. Gender is still a mystery to me and I consider myself under the trans umbrella and spend a lot of time in trans communities, so it's not from a lack of trying. Emotions(?) like pain and hunger also confuse me (at least one person has told me they're not emotions, but for me there seems to often be a disconnect between the stimuli and my brain's reaction to them so I'm often not sure how to answer when someone asks if im hungry or if something hurts because im not sure how my experience map to their words). But I don't use my lack of understanding to tell others they should not take pain pills, for example.

[–] ted@beehaw.org 7 points 1 year ago

"Never got a straight answer" would have been perfect.

[–] dingleberry@discuss.tchncs.de 17 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I don't understand how gears work and never got a clear answer either.

[–] jarfil@beehaw.org 12 points 1 year ago

Nobody understands how magnets work either, we should ban those too.

(obligatory: https://youtu.be/MO0r930Sn_8)

[–] apis@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

Better ban 'em.

None of this newfangled machinery to enter our lives. Toil & the Lord shall provide!

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[–] megopie@beehaw.org 53 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Ah yes the Ace community, famous for it’s acts of bondage. Yup the those asexuals, really out here tying each other up and whipping each other completely non-sexually just for shits and giggles.

[–] BuddyTheBeefalo@lemmy.ml 15 points 1 year ago (2 children)

...many asexual people still have a libido and might experience sexual desire. Asexual people might still masturbate or have sex. After all, sexuality doesn't always mean someone doesn't enjoy sex. It just means they don't experience sexual attraction.

https://www.healthline.com/health/what-is-asexual

BDSM doesn’t have to be sexual in nature—some people like it for the power only.

https://www.self.com/story/bdsm-facts

[–] megopie@beehaw.org 18 points 1 year ago

I know, I’m asexual, I’m just pointing out that the I and the A which are so often added and that the plus is often substituted for to cover even more bases, are really weird things to associate with BDSM.

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 5 points 1 year ago

Kinda missed the point there dude.

Axs, nbs, and the rest of the soup aren't well known for their spanking proclivities

[–] Poik@pawb.social 10 points 1 year ago

Eh. I'm in the ace umbrella and I'd be honored to be associated. One of the most important tenants of BDSM is consent. And if everyone is consenting, I won't be forced into situations I'm uncomfortable with. These people probably associate BDSM with Fifty Shade of Gray, which the BDSM community, last I checked, hates with a burning passion because it's very nonconsensual.

r/BDSM_Aces would like to have a word with you. :)

[–] Taako_Tuesday@lemmy.ca 47 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Today i learned that, despite being a cis man who is exclusively attracted to women, this city council considers me to be a part of the LGBTQ+ community

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[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 47 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Mmmm i hear those G's promote butt stuff. Better remove that one too. And the Q's a slur don'tcherknow. And better take out the T, i hear they bust into women's toilets wildly waving their penises.

[–] DieguiTux8623@feddit.it 25 points 1 year ago (1 children)

And why don't we add an "S" for straight in order to not exclude anyone? After removing the letters we remain with LBS which doesn't sound bad, it looks like a household brand...

[–] veloxization@yiffit.net 19 points 1 year ago

Oh, the B can also promote butt stuff so let's remove that one as well. The L takes away from the S men so we should remove it so everyone gets an equal share. Ahhh, there we go. S. The acronym is complete.

What do you mean we're right where we started?

[–] thefartographer@lemm.ee 10 points 1 year ago

I don't know what world you're living in, but God I wanna live there too.

[–] Thelsim@beehaw.org 35 points 1 year ago

had to be removed due to his personal discomfort...

Waiting for the next politician to feel personal discomfort with one of the other letters. Is the bar really that low?

[–] Rozauhtuno@lemmy.blahaj.zone 28 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Even if it did stand for BDSM, so what?

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 5 points 1 year ago

Folsom street represeeeeeent!

[–] Swiggles@lemmy.blahaj.zone 24 points 1 year ago (7 children)

So what? If BDSM folks feel represented by LGBTQ+ they have every right to be part of it. What's wrong with BDSM anyway?

Not like LGBTQ+ promotes anything at all besides that it is okay to be who you are.

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[–] Kyoyeou 23 points 1 year ago

"We accept you for who you are after we have judged you"

[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 15 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Even if it did, what's wrong with it?

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[–] OmegaMouse@feddit.uk 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Why do these people hold a position of power?

[–] BaroqueInMind@kbin.social 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Because 18-25 demographic never fucking votes.

[–] CyberEgg@discuss.tchncs.de 9 points 1 year ago

They do. They are by far outnumbered by most older generations though.

[–] library_napper@monyet.cc 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Because there's not rank choice voting and no leftist options to vote for

[–] Axolotling@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Y'all do my eyes deceive me or is the "L" using the lipstick lesbian flag instead of the sunset?

[–] alex@jlai.lu 3 points 1 year ago

Looks like the right one to me

[–] TheFrirish@jlai.lu 4 points 1 year ago

I honestly have no view about this I just think there are a thousand more important problems than what attracts you and what you do in bed.

[–] cherryzombs@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago

Gonna feel silly when they find out all the other letters represent BDSM too. Every community has a sub-set of people interested in BDSM. Cishet ppl too. :/

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