Men's Liberation

Zeno Franco, who studies heroism and post-traumatic stress disorder at the Medical College of Wisconsin, thinks that we can turn masculine norms against sexual harassment and assault. “When has it ever been an acceptable norm that men instill fear in women? When has it ever been an acceptable norm that men turn a blind eye when other men harm women?”

absolutely. i always feel leery about making blanket statements about "what it means to be a man"; but without question, for me, it means protecting those who cannot protect themselves, pushing back and speaking out against those who exercise their power on others without regard for their well being. it means interfering in situations where i think someone will be harmed if i don't, and trusting myself to be able to improve the situation, not just make it worse

sometimes, that means risking my own well being, too. i'm smart about it, not reckless; my own well being matters a lot to me too, especially because there are some people who are just fucked if something happens to me. but there are plenty of times i take that risk too and trust that, if things go wrong, they'll be alright and they'll understand

sometimes, there are things i see and need to act on because i couldn't rightfully call myself a man if i didn't

i'm trans, though. i don't really understand the position of (often) cis men who don't feel like this. maybe they've been told their own power is contingent on the system functioning as intended. maybe they're just afraid, i get that

part of my ability to do this is that i've already been through hell. i know that if i mess up and do something to jeopardize my life, i can figure it out and fix it. i'll survive. and it will have been worth it. maybe they don't know that, they don't have that kind of confidence in themselves

i'm also decent in a fight and i've spent some time learning communication and de-escalation skills (shoutout nonviolent communication) and i've spent over a decade in therapy

but i've always thought we should be speaking to men this way - are you really strong if you can't protect those weaker than you? not to shame them about being weak; sometimes you are and that's the reality of things. but is it truly strong to hoard power for yourself? how confident can you say you really are, if you're afraid to use some of it for the benefit of others?

i haven't lived an easy life, but it's worth shouldering the burden to help make other people's lives easier, too. it is what needs to be done, if we want to see a better society than the one we've grown up in

(i generalized a lot of this because the abuse of power, while influenced by gender, is not defined by gender)