There is a way to check if everything is running smoothly, mostly via an API directly from the software. I will soon when I find time create a status page for all the fun pages we have :)
Unfortunately, there are still a few small problems with the instance, what you describe we have also noticed.
There will be a few changes in short, I hope that the problem is eliminated. I'm not sure if the VM is too weak or the software is not good enough. By the way, we also have a !nightcitybar community here ;D
I would love to build one myself but I am too clumsy to solder :D
Maybe I should offer it as merch on T shirts :D
I am done with Reddit and have deleted my account. Even if I don't cause an impact as a single person, I am happy that u/spez has lost a user.