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I really like fanfiction. Reading and writing it. Nobody in my life knows and I plan on keeping it that way.

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[–] j4k3@lemmy.world 88 points 9 months ago (48 children)

Pretty much everything from AI to Atheism to Lemmy to whatever interesting things I'm mulling over because I'm stuck disabled, living with crazy religious nutters family that have no fundamental logic skills.

[–] sir_pronoun@lemmy.world 28 points 9 months ago

Holy shit bro, hang in there - any chance of dating (maybe other disabled?) people and getting the hell out of there, or something like that? There are flats disabled people share, where they help each other, too, right?

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[–] Mac@mander.xyz 78 points 9 months ago (6 children)

D,E,&I. I work with and am generally surrounded by a bunch of conservative MAGA fucks.

Literally last week my team coach said to us that anyone who got the jab deserves to die. What a fucking idiot.

[–] Valmond@lemmy.mindoki.com 35 points 9 months ago (3 children)

Are people still on about that? Haven't those ones moved on to the next thing after we didn't all die? Call them out, it's 6G cell towers now and eh, another kabal. Revelations Any day soon! Promise!

Lol

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[–] surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 26 points 9 months ago

Anyone who says others "deserve to die" needs to be removed from society. That kind of mindset is dangerous, bordering on threatening.

[–] JusticeForPorygon@lemmy.world 17 points 9 months ago

Average day in a red state

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[–] Emperor@feddit.uk 66 points 9 months ago (3 children)

No one IRL knows I help run a Lemmy instance and I plan on keeping it that way for now as it's going to take too much explaining.

[–] LaunchesKayaks@lemmy.world 86 points 9 months ago (6 children)

I've tried explaining Lemmy to people and they do not understand. They are like "just use reddit bro"

I stopped using Reddit when the API protests happened and haven't gone back. I honestly think Lemmy is far superior. I love seeing and interacting with the same people in varying threads. Feels like an actual community.

[–] otter@lemmy.ca 36 points 9 months ago (2 children)

"Reddit but run by non profits" is the simplest I find, even though that's not completely accurate

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[–] DudeDudenson@lemmings.world 63 points 9 months ago (1 children)
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[–] tiredcapillary@iusearchlinux.fyi 58 points 9 months ago

It's really hard but I struggle to tell people about my operating system. I use Arch BTW.

[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 52 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I don't want any of you to know either.

[–] thawed_caveman@lemmy.world 12 points 9 months ago

This is my answer. There's like a 1% chance that someone i know would find out and i'm not taking it

[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 45 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Sometimes I find myself mourning the person I used to be. I experienced something traumatic in 2018 that changed my entire personality and now suffer from Bipolar II.

[–] KyuubiNoKitsune@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I get that. I do the same often enough. I went from an outgoing fun person to an anxious shut in that is scared of people.

I hope you find that part of yourself that you lost.

[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 16 points 9 months ago (2 children)

I don't think one ever goes back to that, but you can learn to be comfortable with who you are now, and that's more than most people ever achieve.

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[–] weeeeum@lemmy.world 36 points 9 months ago (4 children)

High quality fresh mozzarella sliced thinly into delicate slivers like sashimi, dipped in high quality traditional aged Japanese soy sauce. Eaten with chopsticks of course, similar to conventional sashimi.

I've done a fair share of fine dining and make some very intricate conventional dishes but this weird combo just kind of to gets me. I've never mentioned this to anybody as to not disqualify myself as the "chef guy" but I can't help but like it.

[–] doctordevice@lemm.ee 23 points 9 months ago

Both my brother and my brother-in-law are professional chefs and they each eat the weirdest nonsense on their own. It's like their palettes have to be so refined at work that they need to throw the wildest combos of flavors together at home to feel like they're eating something different.

So if anything I think this qualifies you as the "chef guy."

[–] astronaut_sloth@mander.xyz 11 points 9 months ago (1 children)

No lie, that actually sounds kinda good and I want to try it.

[–] weeeeum@lemmy.world 13 points 9 months ago (1 children)

It's gotta be THIN, around 5mm or less. Frankly the thinner the better, it gives it a sort of luxurious melt in your mouth consistency (room temp too). For soy sauce I use Tsuru Bishio 4 year aged soy sauce. It's like 40$ a bottle but it's so strong and rich that I tend to use very little at a time (one bottle lasts me like 6 months).

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[–] starman2112@sh.itjust.works 33 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I need someone to know me really well before I let them know I watch anime, because a 30 year old dude who likes anime paints a certain picture

[–] SendMePhotos@lemmy.world 18 points 9 months ago

In your area perhaps. In mine it's pretty common.

[–] metaStatic@kbin.social 33 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[–] Landless2029@lemmy.world 19 points 9 months ago (3 children)

I could never get ASMR. Like I understand it but it never triggers. Whispers, plastic crimples, etc. It finally happened to me. Completely by accident.

Backyard metal melting in forges.
The flame of a forge got me the goosepimples good.

15 min in: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jgo4hH1WDyY

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[–] closetfurry@yiffit.net 30 points 9 months ago (3 children)

Ah, I have nothing I'm hiding from anyone, and I'm totally not posting this from an alt-account

[–] Theta775@lemmy.world 12 points 9 months ago

username DEFINITELY checks out

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[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 30 points 9 months ago

I’d prefer if my family and my coworkers don’t know my wife and I met at a bdsm event. I don’t hide it from friends though

[–] OldWoodFrame@lemm.ee 29 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (7 children)

I've been really into early Christianity / Biblical textual analysis. I found a priest I like on YouTube I really like and I've watched 100+ hours of lectures of his, plus a couple podcasts and audiobooks.

I'm not religious at all and kinda the stuff I like is the "huh, this is pretty obviously fake/contradictory, interesting nobody saw through this" stuff. It's like anthropologically interesting.

Obviously a dominant religion, not like a fringe thing to know about, but nobody's into these facts in just this way. Don't want to talk about it to religious people, non-religious people don't want to talk about it to me.

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[–] lvxferre@mander.xyz 28 points 9 months ago (3 children)
  1. Fanfics, too. I love fanfics exploring what-ifs of a work, and myself wrote two or three of those, but assumers immediately associate them with the lemons.
  2. Isekai. Same deal as fanfics, except with escapism instead of porn. (I'm a sucker for fantasy dammit.)
  3. Machine text generation. Yeah, I don't want to be confused with a functionally illiterate tech bro.
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[–] BOLOID@pawb.social 25 points 9 months ago (1 children)

None of my family members know what a furry is and i'm keeping it that way.

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[–] Filthmontane@lemmy.world 22 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[–] Silentiea@lemm.ee 14 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

This one right here. I mean people know that I am pretty left-leaning or whatever, but if my dad found out that I think socialism is actually a good idea, I think he'd react worse than when he found out I was trans.

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[–] Mango@lemmy.world 20 points 9 months ago (2 children)

What I fap to. I'll never hear the end of it and I'd like to have life be normal between faps.

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[–] xkforce@lemmy.world 19 points 9 months ago (2 children)
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[–] itsralC@lemm.ee 18 points 9 months ago (8 children)

Homestuck, Undertale, Hazbin Hotel, and all those popular pieces of media that get overshadowed by their shitty fandoms

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[–] Mediocre_Bard@lemmy.world 18 points 9 months ago (2 children)

World of Warcraft: Classic.

People know that I play, but they do not know that it has consumed me. All that I do, I do to spend time existing as a dwarf.

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[–] phoenixz@lemmy.ca 17 points 9 months ago (3 children)

Swinging! Lots of fun, nobody needs to know

[–] thorbot@lemmy.world 12 points 9 months ago

I dunno man the swings at my local park really clamp on my ass in an uncomfortable way and I get motion sick. You must have those premium swing seats

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[–] thorbot@lemmy.world 17 points 9 months ago

Nice try, FBI

[–] Denvil@lemmy.one 16 points 9 months ago (2 children)

That I still play Roblox for the Napoleonic Wars community. I don't want to be associated with the brain dead games that make up like 90%+ of Roblox

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[–] loopedcandle@lemmynsfw.com 15 points 9 months ago (6 children)
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[–] grasshopper_mouse@lemmy.world 13 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Same with fanfiction except I write it more than I read it. I've been doing it for years now and have a little over 200 subscribers. My partner is the only one who knows I write it, but I've never let him read it, and never will (which he's fine with). I feel like it's such a ridiculous little thing to do, but I also like knowing there's 200+ people out there who enjoy what I write.

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