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At what age do you consider life to be over? (kbin.melroy.org)

submitted 5 months ago by snownyte@kbin.melroy.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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From any hopes for a bounceback in career, a healthy love life, a more active friend circle .etc

For me it's when you start entering your 50s. You start to think more and more in how you'll end up being as you progress in age. Thoughts of the idea of how to maintain your health and how so much now is going to affect you set in. Thoughts on potentially retiring start setting in.

Things like getting friends and dates won't be impossible, but they'll be incredibly hard to get. Even if you have either, they most likely will not turn out how you expect to be whereas when you were younger, you had the time and energy on your side.

Careers and where you'll work will just dry up where you could likely be stuck just doing retail work for the remainder of your life or any minimum wage position.

Very few people make a difference in their 50s or already had their life planned out to where they're fine in their 50s. But a lot of the time, people really don't.

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[–] Shdwdrgn@mander.xyz 4 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

There are no limits to anything you've mentioned, it seems more like you're just ready to give up on life?

Career changes can come at any time, the older you get, the more knowledge you have, and the easier it is to do something else unless you wasted your whole life playing video games. Look at the things you've learned through hobbies, surely something would apply to a job?

Why do you think a healthy love life would ever end? I've known many people who are great-grandparents, lost their partner, and met up with others who are in the same position. Now they have two huge families instead of one. If you can't get past thinking about sex, they make lubricants specifically for older people.

What do you mean by an active friend circle? Everyone changes their activities as the have a family and grow older. You adjust what you do as the body can't keep up. That doesn't mean you don't enjoy what you're doing, it just means you find new things that you enjoy. Hell some lady set a record for parachuting at the age of 104 last year, and the guy she took the record from got back out a couple weeks ago and set a new record (he's now 106). If you think you're ready to roll over and die in your 50's then you're not even trying.

Quite frankly I'm in my mid-50's. In the past year I actually decided to look at where I'm at for retirement because I intend to enjoy the hell out of it. Doing a little shuffling of my finances to try to boost some of my funds over the next 10-15 years, but otherwise I feel like I'm in good shape to kick back, do some traveling, and work on a bunch of projects. Retirement just means you get to start playing without work getting in the way. Even before then, I'm planning on building a trailer this Summer and cleaning up the motorcycle so I can get out and start riding again soon. There's no such thing as life being "over" before you actually die.