Men's Liberation
This community is first and foremost a feminist community for men and masc people, but it is also a place to talk about men’s issues with a particular focus on intersectionality.
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Everybody is welcome, but this is primarily a space for men and masc people
Non-masculine perspectives are incredibly important in making sure that the lived experiences of others are present in discussions on masculinity, but please remember that this is a space to discuss issues pertaining to men and masc individuals. Be kind, open-minded, and take care that you aren't talking over men expressing their own lived experiences.
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Recommended Reading
- The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, And Love by bell hooks
- Politics of Masculinities: Men in Movements by Michael Messner
Related Communities
!feminism@beehaw.org
!askmen@lemmy.world
!mensmentalhealth@lemmy.world
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Why do some women like to have women only spaces? I think different people have different environments they feel most comfortable in, where they can be the most self. I assume that is true for at least some men with men only spaces.
Let's be real -- often it's because of poorly behaved men.
Or maybe sometimes you want to hang out with people who share a similar experience of being a women?
You can hang out with a group of women and share that without being in a space that completely forbids men. But I get what you're saying.
At least for me the vibe in a male only, mixed or where I'm the only dude setting - are very different.
Because there are so many male dominated spaces? There are women-only gyms because many gyms have mostly men working out. Look at any basketball court in a park and count the number of women playing. There's always random dudes, but very few women. Look at any soccer field, baseball field, BBQ area, etc. These are huge public areas devoted mostly to things men want to do.
I say this as a dude who enjoys all of that. If women want their own baseball league or running club or whatever, it literally doesn't hurt me at all. Men don't need "men only" spaces because that's still the default for everything now. If some women show up to play basketball, that's totally fine. They may not be as strong but there are plenty of smaller dudes playing too. It makes no sense to exclude them.
You only mention physically intensive activities. Some men may have different interests.
So why would it make sense to exclude men?
Also, I'm not the best person to argue about it, since I personally don't really like male-only settings so I would not speak from my own experience. And in general I think our society profits more from mixed settings since they help to normalize relations between genders.
You're entirely correct, this guy's 'need' is completely isolated to himself, it's not a universal - I've never asked myself "wouldn't this be better if there were fewer women?", absolutely never occurred to me even.
he wants gender exclusivity because being around women makes him uncomfortable. Well buddy, that's not how society works lol. Maybe move to Oman or Qatar if they want genders defined like that.
"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."
Some dudes are just not comfortable around women, and they all seem to be downvoting comments. The funny thing is, these dudes would probably be thrown out of most "male" spaces (sports bars, basketball courts, weightlifting gyms) for being nuts.