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I feel like things on Lemmy were pretty chill several months ago, and that’s started to change.

People used to talk each other like they would talk to a neighbor. Now I get the sense that people have become quick to be negative, attack, and not be constructive.

Am I crazy in feeling like the vibe has changed?

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[–] OpenStars@startrek.website 11 points 10 months ago (2 children)

It has gotten worse and it will only continue to do so. There are people who are respectful and hold back their darkest impulses, but there are others who choose to hold those same features in high regard, as literal virtues in their eyes. Blocking hexbear and lemmygrad has helped my own peace of mind immensely, but you would not want to block lemmy.ml or lemmy.world or such so... here we are.

I do not really see any permanent solution to this problem, short of eternal vigilance. That's just nature though, e.g. viruses constantly evolve and seek new hosts, hence hosts that do not keep up die, there's no way around needing to keep up defenses against such a tireless onslaught. Similarly for information vs. misinformation too, it seems:-(.

It has also gotten much harder to have any discussion with even the tiniest hint of subtlety on the Fediverse - is Biden/Linux/socialism/religion good or bad? "Yes." For some of us, knowing what will happen - the flood of toxic responses I mean - if we dare to speak up is enough to cause us to cringe enough that we would simply rather stay silent instead. If only the opposing side were like that too! But no, they elect not to hold their own tongues, even while expecting YOU to hold yours. That too seems just the nature of the universe.

[–] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 10 months ago (1 children)

if we dare to speak up is enough to cause us to cringe enough that we would simply rather stay silent instead.

It's a different kind of Chilling Effect. It reduces conversation, because it convinces some people to not become involved at all.

[–] OpenStars@startrek.website 3 points 10 months ago

Whereas conversations like this one with you has the opposite effect - thank you for your addition and the link:-).

[–] Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml 4 points 10 months ago (2 children)

People here realize that narratives have consequences and know we can't just live in la-la land where everyone is happy all the time. I mean yeah you can do that but then don't be surprised pikachu face when you find yourself in the company of neo-nazis who are doing the same.

[–] OpenStars@startrek.website -2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Lolz you are hilarious - if I get called a derogatory term like "stupid", and I don't like it, then I am a literal, actual Nazi? :-P That really makes me curious... what if I DO like it:-P?

[–] Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml 2 points 10 months ago

Could you please translate, that was completely incoherent.