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It feels like no matter where I turn some septuagenarian, or older, is making life miserable for myself and others. Usually these are older white Christian conservatives, obsessed with a delusional sense of reality that no longer has a basis in fact, or perhaps never did.

There is a disproportionate amount of wealth concentrated in the older generation and those who will inherit it will probably be even worse with that money than the last generation. Certainly we see evidence of that already, anyone in their 30's who has parents who help them out VS those who don't have that have radically different outcomes. For some reason those lucky enough to come from good families ascribe laziness and bad attitude to those who don't have the family support, as if they are somehow enjoying "self made success" while mummy does their laundry for them.

No generation previous needed this kind of assistance well into adulthood, but this infantilisation of working adults has happened because of the hoarding of wealth, refusing to pass on the torch in workplaces and just blocking change for the sake of stoking petty politics. Most of us will never own our own home but all the politicians want to talk about is whether it's OK to dehumanise trans people or not.

I'm 36 this year. For most of my teens I thought there'd be some kind of tipping point where the conservative boomers would fuck off or at least let the next generation step in, but that hasn't happened. Back in the 1990's you could be a girl and wear jeans and be empowered, now this is considered some kind of woke statement. As if we recently invented this idea of women and men being equal.

The faces of my two dogs, my cat and my husband are all that keep me going. Knowing they need me gives me just enough to get out of bed in the morning and start moving... but I'm struggling to do even that without having a breakdown. My husband and I have medical expenses we can't afford and are borrowing money to survive right now. I run my own business and just feel this immense pressure on my shoulders, that again is compounded by how unfair the world is right now.

Anyone got any advice for coping with this late stage capitalist hellscape?

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[–] gzrrt@kbin.social 29 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (4 children)

I'm almost exactly the same age as you. If I've learned anything up to this point, it's that people would start to have better and richer lives as soon as they cancel their cable TV subscriptions, delete all social media accounts*, and delete all news apps from their mobile devices. I really believe smartphones are a huge culprit in making people miserable, and it's because we've let these things get totally out of hand instead of consciously making them as boring and utilitarian as possible.

The issue of being 'informed' or not can be covered by reading Wikipedia's current events page for a few minutes each week. That should also free up plenty of time for people to focus more on what really matters day-to-day, which is their local community, friends, family and neighbors. Useful information is actionable, and actionable information can be found when you're laser-focused on your local area and the ways you can help improve it.

  • Lemmy / kbin isn't social media, IMO. ; )
[–] Daxtron2@startrek.website 24 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Lemmy is objectively social media

[–] TheGalacticVoid@lemm.ee 6 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I think they mean social media with algorithmicly generated content feeds.

[–] JackGreenEarth@lemm.ee 6 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

All the feeds are algorithms in leemmy - hot, top, new, etc. They're just simpler algorithms and they're open source.

[–] Silentiea@lemm.ee 3 points 10 months ago

Technically any feed at all is an algorithm, even one as simple as just "show whatever's newest in your subs"

[–] Daxtron2@startrek.website 2 points 10 months ago

It's still an algorithm that determines what content you see

[–] gzrrt@kbin.social 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

IMO Lemmy's a new version of old-school web forums and link aggregators (which have been around since the beginning- kind of like Fark, Slashdot, etc). Using this site feels the same as using those sites.

Think social media's a very specific thing that started off in the early-to-mid 00s- i.e., a site / app where you keep a profile that's tied to your real-life identity and real-life social circles (myspace, friendster, linkedin, facebook). And that's where the harm kicks in, since suddenly you have to worry about having some kind of curated digital persona, which has some kind of real-life impact. So if we can't talk about the harms of social media in a specific way (i.e., the harm of constantly comparing your life to these idealized representations of other people's lives), then 'social media' isn't a meaningful term anymore.

[–] phileashog@sh.itjust.works 2 points 10 months ago

But I want to carry the full weight of the world on my shoulders and get upset about things I can't change...

/s

[–] callyral@pawb.social 2 points 10 months ago

lemmy and kbin are social media

[–] ScreaminOctopus@sh.itjust.works 2 points 10 months ago

Is there an rss feed for the current events page?