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I don't think "female" is offensive.

I thought it was offensive because some (supposedly female) users said it was offensive; but I didn't understand why my female friends used the term (female).

I found another saying that it wasn't offensive, and I immediate copied that belief.

LGBTQ+ politics is confusing …

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[–] Amicchan@lemmy.ml 6 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Its not my post; someone else posted it.

Here's the actual reddit post.

Can someone help me understand a post I read on r/TwoXChromosomes - It was a post addressing the term “female” and many of the commenters agreed that it was ‘dehumanizing’. It didn’t make sense to me because it’s a word that is commonly used and I haven’t heard anyone describe it this way before. Usually I can make sense of how another person is feeling by imagining myself in a similar position but I just would not feel upset or angry if anyone described me as “male”.

I’ll stop using it if it hurts people, but I admit it is frustrating when common every day words suddenly become wrong to say.

EDIT: I appreciate all the replies. There have been a lot of mixed opinions, but I do find it comforting that I’m not the only one confused by this. Here’s what I learned:

After asking some friends outside of Reddit, I’ve made the realization that the majority of women are not actually offended by the term “female”. It seems to be more prevalent on Reddit. After reading your comments I suspect that may be because the women of Reddit are more exposed to “incel” culture and the toxicity that comes with the anonymity of the internet. They are more likely to have heard the term female used in a derogatory manner and given it a negative association. I think the word itself is fine and those who are critical of it are really upset by the underlying misogyny which is something I completely understand.

[–] Redpandalovely@midwest.social 6 points 2 years ago

I agree. The word is fine, it is how it is used. Like the word male and plural forms of both words. The anonymity shows how people really think of others and perpetuates toxic thinking and treatment of others.