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How would you feel if a person you've slept with asks for money after the deed (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by Kujo_D2407@sopuli.xyz to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Pretty much the title - I met a girl on Hinge, we decided to go grab a drink, then one thing left to another and we ended up sleeping together.

Now, the girl mentioned that she would have to see the doc if I went down on her. But I was drunk and didn't pay much attention.

When I mentioned it was also something she wanted, she agreed to take half, but also, that I have to pay her cab expenses home.

Would you or would you not feel like this person is an escort? It feels so strange being asked to pay after having sex. Or am i the only one?

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[–] deathbird@mander.xyz 8 points 1 year ago

I wouldn't assume it's a solicitation for payment for sex, but it's strange to ask someone you just met to cover your medical expenses. I mean, presumably you'll need the same testing she will. I assume anyone who actually sells sex will try to frankly negotiate payment up front.

My guess is...it was maybe an indirect way of asking you to slow down. Or she's could be on a tight budget and also horny AND knows she's going to have to get down to Planned Parenthood to get tested for the clap after letting some stranger off Hinge eat her out.

People make all kinds of bad decisions when they're horny, and sometimes try to mitigate them in weird ways in the moment. You neve known a guy who started having sex without a condom, then paused to put one on?