Looks like KBin has an edge over Lemmy now in terms of monthly active users.
It's obviously a pretty silly thing, and is not in any way indicative of which project is "better" or more "long-term viable" or anything — instances of both federate with one another, and with the rest of fedi, so it's all one happy family.
That said, it's notable. KBin is a relative newcomer to the "Reddit-like fedi instance" game, and also does not have the tankie baggage.
Anyway, the more, the merrier!
KBin: https://the-federation.info/platform/184
Lemmy: https://the-federation.info/platform/73
Discussion on fedi: https://mstdn.social/@rysiek/110527049024028986
The problem is lemmy.ml From what I get, a lot of the old guard (before the Reddit exodus) are tankies. That includes the admins and mods. And Lemmy.ml was or still is the biggest instance because new people automatically choose the server of the Lemmy devs (Because many people don't understand the concept of federation).